And what is the hobby that you are shy about? Do you make stuffed animals in the garage, latex shoulder belts with spikes, play the bagpipes? The stranger the hobby, the cooler it is, in my opinion.
And if the question is rather how to show the results of your hobby to people, then this is an eternal problem. Because mom, dad and friends will always say that you're doing great, doing everything cool, but the reviews of outsiders are scary, yes. When I start to be afraid of criticism, I remember a lecture by Kirill Ivanov (SBHR group) entitled “Russian pop – the best music in the country”. Kirill Ivanov is incredibly cool, but once he sang songs in an empty hall. So at the lecture, he said: “If there is at least one person who likes what you are doing (even if this one person is you), if he wants to listen to you, keep doing it!” It helps me a lot.
Most likely, in your social circle, either everyone is shy about this, or there are no such people. Find as many like-minded people as possible in real life,make friends with them and try to introduce them in some way to the rest of your friends or parents (depending on who you are shy about your hobby). Quite often, peers or people with a difference of three years back and forth get hooked on the same hobby. (younger,older than you)So also try to make sure that there are no such people among your friends YET. My example will probably suck, but it will explain what and how. Somewhere in class 7, I started to get very involved in Dota (it's long over, haters, don't attack =D) . Due to the fact that I was still not very sociable and generally scared of everything,I completely hid the fact that I was playing it,but then everyone around me started talking about it,I was already with a lot of experience,and when I tried to get involved in the conversation,they told me “yes,you don't even know what we are talking about”, well,then I said that I In everything except 3vs3, I always won crushing victories and did not even know before that SO MANY people in Russia were bored with this game. (because I played on US EAST for the purpose of practicing English colloquial and slang, well, it's more adequate there somehow) In general, I got the status of an invincible nerd and kept it until about the end of the 9th grade, until one of the dudes of our school, who had already managed to play at the pro level, raped a team of students who decided to play on my side. Ie, we were like two captains like that.�
Yes, I have deviated a lot from the topic and most likely you have a much more interesting hobby, but the essence remains the same. Maybe someone even scares you by saying in public that people with your hobby are bad people? Maybe they are just as afraid of public opinion and therefore just try to hide as much as possible under haters,if the gut is not thin, then ask them to justify their opinion, only intelligently and be ready to prove that the person is wrong, in this case, if you manage to make an opponent, then no one will be ashamed to admit their hobby. One more thing . I remember there was a quote, ala, “a hobby is an interest that requires money,” or something like that. It would not be bad to satisfy yourself in your hobby, not only spending money,but also getting something in return, for example, some respect or status. I know that everything is very simple to say and hard to do,but you need to try if you really care about this issue.
And what is the hobby that you are shy about? Do you make stuffed animals in the garage, latex shoulder belts with spikes, play the bagpipes? The stranger the hobby, the cooler it is, in my opinion.
And if the question is rather how to show the results of your hobby to people, then this is an eternal problem. Because mom, dad and friends will always say that you're doing great, doing everything cool, but the reviews of outsiders are scary, yes. When I start to be afraid of criticism, I remember a lecture by Kirill Ivanov (SBHR group) entitled “Russian pop – the best music in the country”. Kirill Ivanov is incredibly cool, but once he sang songs in an empty hall. So at the lecture, he said: “If there is at least one person who likes what you are doing (even if this one person is you), if he wants to listen to you, keep doing it!” It helps me a lot.
Most likely, in your social circle, either everyone is shy about this, or there are no such people. Find as many like-minded people as possible in real life,make friends with them and try to introduce them in some way to the rest of your friends or parents (depending on who you are shy about your hobby). Quite often, peers or people with a difference of three years back and forth get hooked on the same hobby. (younger,older than you)So also try to make sure that there are no such people among your friends YET. My example will probably suck, but it will explain what and how. Somewhere in class 7, I started to get very involved in Dota (it's long over, haters, don't attack =D) . Due to the fact that I was still not very sociable and generally scared of everything,I completely hid the fact that I was playing it,but then everyone around me started talking about it,I was already with a lot of experience,and when I tried to get involved in the conversation,they told me “yes,you don't even know what we are talking about”, well,then I said that I In everything except 3vs3, I always won crushing victories and did not even know before that SO MANY people in Russia were bored with this game. (because I played on US EAST for the purpose of practicing English colloquial and slang, well, it's more adequate there somehow) In general, I got the status of an invincible nerd and kept it until about the end of the 9th grade, until one of the dudes of our school, who had already managed to play at the pro level, raped a team of students who decided to play on my side. Ie, we were like two captains like that.�
Yes, I have deviated a lot from the topic and most likely you have a much more interesting hobby, but the essence remains the same. Maybe someone even scares you by saying in public that people with your hobby are bad people? Maybe they are just as afraid of public opinion and therefore just try to hide as much as possible under haters,if the gut is not thin, then ask them to justify their opinion, only intelligently and be ready to prove that the person is wrong, in this case, if you manage to make an opponent, then no one will be ashamed to admit their hobby. One more thing . I remember there was a quote, ala, “a hobby is an interest that requires money,” or something like that. It would not be bad to satisfy yourself in your hobby, not only spending money,but also getting something in return, for example, some respect or status. I know that everything is very simple to say and hard to do,but you need to try if you really care about this issue.