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The inability to see the situation through someone else's eyes is usually inherent in preschool children.
Accordingly, discarding the variant of developmental pathology, let's assume that we are given an adult with a normally developed brain.
Then it is enough to periodically ask yourself questions like:�
“what counterarguments can I, a clever, cunning person, come up with for my point of view” and�
“if I had the same hairstyle as him, what would I think about the subject of our argument?”
The realization that there is no objective good and evil also helps.
First, discard feelings and emotions, they prevent you from seeing reality.
Second, a side is someone's view. It is necessary to put yourself in the place of this someone and look at the situation “through his eyes, thoughts.” Sometimes it is enough to be able to copy a person's speech, facial expressions, gestures, and movements in order to understand how they think.
In order to do this, you need to learn to understand and accept people who are not like you. If you don't consider your opinion to be the ultimate truth, if you are willing to take information from different points of view every time and admit that you may well be wrong, then it is easier for you to imagine the thoughts, expectations and motivations of other people's actions. Including your opponents. And when you begin to understand other people's emotions, you begin to better understand your own emotions, and it is easier for you to manage them .
Sofia, to do this, you need to sort of rise above the situation or step aside to see more than one side. You can try to decompose the situation into objects, the situation itself is in the center, and the objects around it are related to it. The more you look at it, the more sides you'll see.
If there are participants, then we can assume what this situation looks like from their point of view. “mk also expands the range.
It is important that you are not in the situation, but above or near it. From the inside, more than one side is hard to see.
The skill is being trained.
Oddly enough, the movies taught me that. In thrillers, everything is usually built in such a way that you think that one person is to blame, but in the end it turns out that a completely different person is to blame. Watching such films, I first began to doubt that my point of view was correct, and then I began to learn to watch from the outside. I think the basis of this skill is self-doubt. And trying on someone else's view of what is happening is already a matter of time.
Alternatively, read books�
Morgan Jones ” Problem solving using special services techniques “(an excellent textbook with tasks and examples, available on the Internet)
M. Zhukova “55 fatal mistakes that women make “(meaning in relationships with men)