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Fear is normal.
Did you play computer games? Imagine that you are standing at the entrance to a cave, you know that in its halls are hidden unique treasures-gold, clothes, rare spell scrolls and so on.
Do you think it will be so easy to get them, or will you still have to work hard?
Life has its own monsters and challenges.
Uncertainty arises when you compare yourself to someone or something and think that you should / shouldn't be able to do it. Otherwise, you are “unsuccessful”, “stupid”, “weak” and so on.
To avoid uncertainty, you need to honestly admit to yourself and others that you lack something: knowledge, skills, and qualities. Humans are not born omniscient. A person does not need to know and be able to do everything. Live your life and learn what you are interested in and need. Leave the rest to those who are interested and need it. When you need it, ask. Stop comparing yourself to someone else. it is better to compare yourself today with yourself yesterday. Defeat yourself every day.
Well, you need to deal with fear separately. There can be many reasons. Contact a specialist.
It is difficult for me to say anything about “total fear” – to be honest, I did not understand you in this part of the question. Is it a phobia, a panic attack, or something else?- so I'm sorry, I'll answer the second part.
Experience and the theory of general psychology show that the problem of self-doubt is associated with a lack of self – esteem, literally self-respect-this is mainly the result of a lack of recognition of a person in early childhood, or a restriction on the ability to express oneself.
The first one is pretty clear. Let's say you've been taught for fifteen or twenty years that you're worthless – no matter how hard you try and no matter what you do – so one day you internalize this idea and start behaving accordingly. Losers make bad decisions – that's what you'll think about when deciding what to do in a given situation. There is no question of confidence – taking responsibility for your personal choice is simply not associated with the ability to achieve a goal.
With regard to the second case, I would say this: let's say that for fifteen or twenty years everything was decided for you. What to wear, where to go, etc. – in a word, classic hyper-care. Again, you won't be confident just because you don't know how to make basic decisions. In a situation of choice, you go into frustration and search for help from the outside – because it is from the outside that all the directives on how to act come. In any case, they did until recently.
For starters, self-doubt is a consequence of problems from deep childhood. Sometimes, of course, the reasons appear later, but if this problem is really serious, then it is from an early age. Abnormal parenting – for example, lack of care and attention, or too obvious their presence, even to the point of overprotection. Often, the inability to integrate into society at an early age imposes subsequent problems on self-doubt, even in adults and self-sufficient people. By the way, if this is expressed very clearly, it can be a consequence of anxiety as a disorder, a depressive state, or others, but you should not self-medicate.�
But the fear of certain things – such as mirrors, bugs, or something else-can be the result of a long-forgotten trigger. Or to reflect some deeper concern, such as the fear of the dark, which often masks something much more serious.