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I agree with the opinion above, about laying character in the first 3 years of life (however, do not forget that our psyche is so multifaceted that something can come up in old age). I'll add it.�
I think growing up is not “easy”. I once looked at a woman and realized that she, and a lot of formally adult people, are actually the same 18-year-olds who have overgrown negative experiences.
Of course, here you need to decide what “adulthood” is. If it's just when you work, live separately, etc., then yes, many people are adults. And if you think of it as going beyond children's egocentrism, self-sufficiency, the ability to build communication with other people, then not everyone grows up in this life, oh, not everyone. At the same time, I think that a truly grown-up person may well not only change, but put his character from a different angle, realize better qualities (or worse, if he suddenly needs it).
There are thousands of opinions on this question. People definitely change their external manifestations,it's not just about growing up, but also about the emergence of new, more profitable social attitudes, gaining experience, and so on.Of course, they are acquired with age, but as psychologists say, the character of a person develops up to 3 years. And then he just gets overgrown with so-called “meat”(habits,quirks,manners, learns to manage his character, and so on)
If you don't see a person for half a year, you risk not recognizing them at all.
And then there are two theories(I don't know anymore,maybe there are more)
1) The person inside always remains the same, the character is laid down for the first 3 years of life. You can't change a person from the inside out. (In general, never count on the fact that you can change other people,this is important, otherwise you will get another misalliance.)
It's like a lake.When there is no drought, it is what it is.But when it comes the lake changes. But this is only while there is a drought,or only while a person is in conditions in which he cannot show his true character.�
2) People are changed by people.One person, after much effort, can change another(I have not seen this)
Somehow, personally, I think the 1st theory is the most suitable for life. It's more plausible, and I've seen it happen more often. If a person was a gross manipulator, he will remain one. Honest and heartfelt?Maybe outwardly he is no longer the same, but the heart is difficult to harden, if he again gets into conditions where he can show his features, he will become what he was.