What if you're so damn unlucky?
How to endure the blows of fate without hitting the dirt on your face and not lowering your self-esteem?
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Lucky/unlucky… Who is it about? Is it the one who is lucky/unlucky or is it the one who is being driven/unlucky? Russian words sometimes lead to deep thoughts… Perhaps the wrong transport was chosen for life? Or didn't you buy a ticket? Or maybe you just stand on the side of the road and watch with envy how others are being driven, but you can't even raise your hands to stop the ride? You know in advance. that no one will stop?
This is a metaphor, of course, but think about its meaning.
In fact, any person has good luck and disappointment, but the relationship to them is completely different. Moreover, there are people who are really very often lucky in one thing (such as the owners of lucky tickets), but in the other most are not lucky.
Does it affect their self-esteem? It all depends on the person. One will absolutely devalue his luck and attach maximum importance to failure. The other person, if defeated, will say that he will have other joys and, accepting failure as an experience, will try again and again. Or, after reflection, he will say that this is not his path and calmly change the goal without changing himself.
The main thing you should never do is transfer failures to the individual.
If it didn't work out, then you're a loser/loser/unlucky person??? “NO,” I SAID.
If it didn't work out, it means: I didn't foresee something/ I didn't take it into account/ I didn't have the time/ I didn't want it enough/ I don't really know why/ what do I need to understand and take as an experience from this situation?
See the difference? In the first case, a person immediately puts stamps on himself, combining failures with himself and self-esteem falls.
In the second case, a person as a person is separate, and his deeds, decisions and actions are his experience, his development and his life. Self-esteem does not suffer, but on the contrary is strengthened by relying on yourself and allowing yourself not to be successful in everything.
If YOU carefully explore your life, you will definitely find areas where you are just lucky! Remember the skills that you have developed better than others. Search your memory or ask your friends and family what you do best. Build on that.
Don't be jealous of others, because they have their own failures and experiences, you just can't see them.
You are making a fundamental mistake. Luck, fate and other fictions do not exist, there is a result of work. Yes, there are so-called random variables in probability theory, but their influence is not so significant as to be seriously relied on. Relying on luck is a very bad habit and it is mainly characteristic of the proletariat (and this is not so much an economic phenomenon as a psychological one, but not the essence).�
As they say, live forever-learn how to live forever. If you are systematically doing something wrong (yes, this is subjective, but still), then you should spend time analyzing your mistakes and fixing them.�
PS: and in any case, do not use the services of fortune tellers, astrologers, etc., these are scammers who will not tell you anything except Barnum's wording.