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I can't say that I'm not offended anymore, but life has become much easier. Thubten Chodron, “Open heart, clear mind” (Buddhism for dummies). The main idea about resentment is that it occurs due to obsession with your “I”. The offended person worries first of all about himself, forgetting that everyone looks at the situation from their own bell tower and the one who offended us had their own reasons for doing so. Not always reasonable, but they were. And since everyone is primarily concerned with their own well-being, and not a way to annoy the other, then, most likely, this is not on purpose.
I advise you to read Voynich's book “Gadfly” and see how pathetic and stupid a person who is “offended by life” looks, who blames someone else for what is happening in his life, but not himself.
After Irwin Yalom, or maybe it coincided. For example, it became clear that when parents say to a child:: you are so-and-so, no one will be friends with you, you will go to the janitors, blablabla is not a curse, not hatred, but fear in its purest form. Fear of the future, which you want to voice no matter what, even if it traumatizes the child on the way and causes him pain.