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In many cases, this is simply impossible – it is often impossible to explain why this or that person does not seem attractive, even if it seemed before, or why exactly now you want tea, and not coffee, although usually coffee.
So no, there is no need to argue anything, it is enough to formulate your refusal unequivocally, but at the same time in proportion to the insistence of the offer. Just so you don't have to snarl at people who offer you something out of politeness.
Explanations and even apologies require a refusal of previously assumed obligations. Also, from the point of view of eco-friendly communication, it is bad to end relationships suddenly and without talking – any relationship, romantic, friendly, etc. But that also doesn't mean you should stay in this relationship if you can't explain why you want to get out of it.
This depends on the social role of the communication partner and the relationship with them. You don't have to explain the refusal to the seller in the mobile phone store, but your own mother, for example, needs to be reasoned with.
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The word “required” is not very correct here. The sphere of relations that are not regulated by a single code, binding by law, is not subject to an unavoidable or stipulated penalty. This is more about how you will be better, more useful.
The decision whether to explain yourself or not largely depends on what kind of relationship you want to stay in with this person and whether you care about their opinion (or the opinion of those watching it).
Sometimes it is more useful to explain your refusal, on the contrary. For example, because there is no information vacuum, and if you do not provide your refusal with a simple and understandable explanation, then the person himself will come up with its reasons. And these fantasies of his may not be useful for you in further communication. Or if your harsh behavior is observed by other people from whom you would like to receive frankness and goodwill.
So if you have a task to break up with a person, lengthen your distance, show some of your negativity, then refusing to explain can be very effective. And if you do not want to create tension between you and that person, especially if it is a question of abandoning previous agreements, then it will be more useful to explain, choosing a simple, understandable and better unrelated reason. Again, if it's not worth the task of telling the person what's wrong with their offer.
You don't owe anyone anything. In every sense. The only thing that can (optionally) concern you is the consequences of your choice. If you do not explain your “no” to a loved one, you will lose your credibility, but you can choose whether to lose this credit or not. This rule applies to all areas of life. There is always a choice.
Explaining your “no” to a loved one is really worth it if you don't want to spoil the relationship. The main thing is not to confuse “explain” and “justify”.