Why or why does a person not show their feelings?

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1. The history of each “frostbite” is individual. I can give you a few examples of why feelings are held back.

   The family did not develop a culture of “sensitivity”. Or there was a ban on emotions. A lot of messages from there like: get a rag together, that you are sour, sniveling, men do not cry, you should/wives be strong, no one likes crybabies, get angry badly, etc. Regularly punished for “tantrums” or other violent demonstrations of feelings.�

   An important point is that a person does not lose the ability to feel, he keeps forbidden emotions or transforms them into accessible or passive forms.

   Severe injuries can stop the flow of sensitivity. If you pay attention to the trauma patient's face, it is almost without facial wrinkles, similar to a mask. People in grief can also look like this until the grieving process is over.�

   Another option – the recent experience of revelation and expression of feelings was unsuccessful. And now it is some choice, hold the reaction. Again, this does not mean that the person is insensitive.�

   Sometimes certain feelings are toxic, such as guilt and shame. Because of the fear of experiencing a difficult feeling, a person may limit himself in contacts and manifestations.

   There are psychotypologies, such as psychopaths. They're really insensitive. But they can copy the manifestations of sensitivity, but not experience anything at the same time.�

   There is an alexithymia. People with this feature do not understand their own and other people's feelings. They can't define, name, or express them. But this is corrected by psychotherapy.

   And yet, others may just think that the other is an insensitive blockhead. Just because he doesn't give out what the other person wants to get. �Does not meet expectations. If you allow the other person to just be around, without conditions, then the chances of deepening the relationship are greater.)

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