Well duc just the same ) A thought experiment will help us.
Just imagine your life without it. What is important: imagine not that you never had it, but that it was there – but you lost it.
We sat down at the table, looked at the food – and imagine that you don't have all this, and there is nothing to eat )
If you look at your wife, imagine that she left (no, she didn't leave for a week, don't jump to the ceiling, but left altogether. What, you keep jumping to the ceiling? Well, then I do not know…))
If you have stronger nerves, imagine that you have lost your children. Health. Etc.
Periodic mental exercises in this direction help to clear the head and help in the formation of life priorities )
The devil only knows. Don't take it for granted. Just understand every now and then that it might actually be different.
This is on the one hand. On the other hand, celebrate the pleasure, the happiness of what is – when you notice a difference in your experience. That is, when I generally got used to noticing: right now I feel like shit. Portable, but lousy. And now, compared to this experience of mine, everything is just fine.
I was lucky in this regard and still am. I tend to be discouraged, but at very happy times in my life, I was fully aware (and still am) of how happy I am-right now, not in hindsight.
The children took it very seriously. Here, tonight with one of the twins went for a walk, she at the end of the party – ” What a good day! So many events! We rode on a gyro scooter, went to my grandmother, bought a sausage in the dough! Such a long day!..”- And this is not exaltation. That's what they USUALLY notice. This is a trained, transferable skill – noticing. And as part of it, by the way, to thank each other. Also, not only for great benefits , but also for small things, attention, and everyday care. It's not a ritual, just a good one, not enough yet. This is as sincere as saying it to each other in the family in passing: “I love you.” – Notice it, touch it.�
It looks like there's a connection. When you can do this to those who are nearby, you can also do it to yourself – notice and express: “Thank you, I feel good…”
I use this trick for this purpose. Sit down, relax, close your eyes, and calm your breathing… Then imagine yourself as an astronaut returning to Earth from a long, long, long flight. (As a basis for this image, you can recall the feeling when you get off at the new city train station). Your eyes are closed, you see the darkness – it is a cosmic void. And you think that now you will open your eyes, and you will see-it doesn't matter what, even a cigarette butt under the curb, but it will be – the Earth! That is, the entire history of the planet, all the thoughts of billions of people and the warmth of their hearts, like this very genome in a drop of blood-will appear in any artifact of the Earth that you see first. To feel this, you need to keep in mind the contrast: the endless cosmic void / the planet of people. Then you slowly open your eyes and absorb the newfound life.
Probably, what you have is of some use at the moment. It makes life easier, more pleasant, more convenient, and more interesting. Helps you solve problems that arise. That's the value. This is what distinguishes necessary things from useless and unnecessary ones. The world is constantly changing. Therefore, any items may lose their useful qualities over time, then you can abandon them, replacing them with new useful items. There is a parable about the raft. A person needs a raft when he is floating on the river. When a person gets ashore, he does not then drag the raft on himself overland, but leaves it on the shore. It's the same with values — they are valuable not by themselves, but at the moment of solving a certain task.
Well duc just the same ) A thought experiment will help us.
Just imagine your life without it. What is important: imagine not that you never had it, but that it was there – but you lost it.
We sat down at the table, looked at the food – and imagine that you don't have all this, and there is nothing to eat )
If you look at your wife, imagine that she left (no, she didn't leave for a week, don't jump to the ceiling, but left altogether. What, you keep jumping to the ceiling? Well, then I do not know…))
If you have stronger nerves, imagine that you have lost your children. Health. Etc.
Periodic mental exercises in this direction help to clear the head and help in the formation of life priorities )
The devil only knows. Don't take it for granted. Just understand every now and then that it might actually be different.
This is on the one hand. On the other hand, celebrate the pleasure, the happiness of what is – when you notice a difference in your experience. That is, when I generally got used to noticing: right now I feel like shit. Portable, but lousy. And now, compared to this experience of mine, everything is just fine.
I was lucky in this regard and still am. I tend to be discouraged, but at very happy times in my life, I was fully aware (and still am) of how happy I am-right now, not in hindsight.
The children took it very seriously. Here, tonight with one of the twins went for a walk, she at the end of the party – ” What a good day! So many events! We rode on a gyro scooter, went to my grandmother, bought a sausage in the dough! Such a long day!..”- And this is not exaltation. That's what they USUALLY notice. This is a trained, transferable skill – noticing. And as part of it, by the way, to thank each other. Also, not only for great benefits , but also for small things, attention, and everyday care. It's not a ritual, just a good one, not enough yet. This is as sincere as saying it to each other in the family in passing: “I love you.” – Notice it, touch it.�
It looks like there's a connection. When you can do this to those who are nearby, you can also do it to yourself – notice and express: “Thank you, I feel good…”
I use this trick for this purpose. Sit down, relax, close your eyes, and calm your breathing… Then imagine yourself as an astronaut returning to Earth from a long, long, long flight. (As a basis for this image, you can recall the feeling when you get off at the new city train station). Your eyes are closed, you see the darkness – it is a cosmic void. And you think that now you will open your eyes, and you will see-it doesn't matter what, even a cigarette butt under the curb, but it will be – the Earth! That is, the entire history of the planet, all the thoughts of billions of people and the warmth of their hearts, like this very genome in a drop of blood-will appear in any artifact of the Earth that you see first. To feel this, you need to keep in mind the contrast: the endless cosmic void / the planet of people. Then you slowly open your eyes and absorb the newfound life.
Probably, what you have is of some use at the moment. It makes life easier, more pleasant, more convenient, and more interesting. Helps you solve problems that arise. That's the value. This is what distinguishes necessary things from useless and unnecessary ones. The world is constantly changing. Therefore, any items may lose their useful qualities over time, then you can abandon them, replacing them with new useful items. There is a parable about the raft. A person needs a raft when he is floating on the river. When a person gets ashore, he does not then drag the raft on himself overland, but leaves it on the shore. It's the same with values — they are valuable not by themselves, but at the moment of solving a certain task.