Personally, when I try to forget something unpleasant, I remember it even more often than happy moments. And at the same time, the pleasant things are forgotten, and I have to think only about what I really wanted to forget. Oh, I messed up something. Well, nothing, who did not understand-he will understand 🙂
Our memory is paradoxical: the more we want to forget, the harder it is to forget. Unwittingly, we check whether we have forgotten well, and then remember again. But for a long time, people have been using techniques for managing their own memory. Most often, these are memorization techniques (mnemonics), but there are also techniques of forgetting (letotechnics, so called after the river of oblivion — Leta). Usually, flight technicians are associated with external fixation of the information that needs to be forgotten, and its subsequent external destruction. For example, you can write down what you want to forget on a piece of paper and burn it, or you can write it down with chalk on a blackboard and erase it. It is not a fact that it will work out the first time: you need to learn any techniques for managing your own psyche. Or you can try to come up with your own technique of forgetting: what if it turns out to be the most effective one?
I've heard that every time you think about something you don't want to remember, you need to hurt yourself, for example, prick your finger with a pin. After some time, the brain will begin to block these memories on its own. On the other hand, is it necessary?
Don't rush to suffer from amnesia! You can't forget anything on purpose! You can hide a memory, but you can do this with the help, first of all, of time, which will forget everything. Switch to other goals in life, and the old ones will fade into the background and be forgotten. But one day it will definitely remind you of itself. Probably, the head is conducting an “audit” and is stirring up the old stuff. Memory is a complicated thing! Good luck!
I do it automatically) well, yes, you need to give yourself an installation. Then, everything will definitely work out. It often happens that other people remember some situations with my participation, but I don't-as if it never happened)
In the new world, which will come very soon, all the bad things will be forgotten and will not even come to the heart. This is the promise made by God, our Creator. It created our brain, which scientists call the most complex object in the universe.
I'm not an expert, but I'm a bit into autogenic training. I had moments when I really wanted to forget something, I searched for information about it, but I didn't find anything concrete. As a result, I came up with the idea to use auto-training. I don't even know the first step perfectly, but I decided to try at least to get closer to the second, and in this state I told myself that something didn't happen to me that I want to forget, and I don't remember it at all. It's funny, but it turned out the first time. It's not that I completely forgot it, but rather these memories were just somehow blocked, they seem to be there, and if I really strain myself, I will remember, but they don't come up by themselves and I don't even want to remember. I don't really know how to describe this condition.
On the other hand, the fact is that mastering at least the basic techniques of auto-training still takes some time, desire and self-discipline. But all the information is available on the Internet. You can read it, try it out, and do it yourself.
http://www.ted.com/playlists/196/the_complexity_of_memory Here you can find almost all the TED talk materials about memory and how to learn. But theoretically, our brain is designed in such a way that it has two main departments of short-term and long-term memory. Theoretically, if you constantly load your memory with new impressions, then the growth of new neurons will consist instead of breaking the connections of the old ones, but in this case it will work poorly with long-term memory, because all the information passes from the first block to the second. Of course, this block can be damaged not only surgically, but also by exposure to tobacco, alcohol, drugs, etc. as a result, you will get an artificial version of dementia – do you need it?
If I understood Erickson this way, he said that a mandatory action causes reluctance to perform it. Although, whoever said it, it sounds quite natural and obvious. In any case, I agree with this idea and believe that it works. I think it works on memories (obsessive thoughts, in this case).
Write in your schedule to think about something, say, for 3 (ideally 5-7, but decide for yourself) minutes 4 times a day at the same time. You can think whenever you want, but on a schedule, please drop everything and do just that. Make it mandatory. Perform efficiently and conscientiously. When thinking, do not go away from the topic, do not get distracted, but do not limit yourself to anything within the boundaries of the topic itself (“So, now I will think about X”), analyze everything, rub all the bones and details. And if necessary, several times. Don't deviate from the plan. After completing the task, switch to another task. If you decide to think for 7 minutes, think 7 by the hour, no more, no less. Strictly and honestly with yourself. To do this, you can try to put real things after this mental operation. This may help, but it's not essential. The main thing is to make this operation mandatory as much as possible. Over time, you will no longer enjoy savoring the details of your past moments. I think a week should be enough (in very severe cases, you may need more). And it is better not 4 but 6-8 times a day. When (not earlier than 3-4 days) you say something like “fuck, again” and roll your eyes, you can talk about some changes and that, perhaps, you got off and you can stop repeating this “rite”.
I think only a very organized person can learn this. Only if it does not touch the deepest emotions, the most intimate, there are two big differences between what can be forgotten.
Perhaps there are psychological techniques, but I would pay attention to another issue.
Your desire to forget is a bit illogical, it goes against the usual rules of logic.
If you forget something, you don't know that you forgot it, you don't remember it anymore, so how do you see the result for yourself? Obviously, no way. That is, you also need an outside observer ( some kind of psychoanalyst) to help you with this.
And yet, when he tells you that you are doing great and forgot something, you will immediately start trying to remember, because you will be interested.
You can learn techniques to help you manage your memories.
Conscious displacement.
You need a psychologist or better psychotherapist who knows NLP techniques, but not only NLP, you need a competent psychotherapist who is not fixated on one technique, is familiar with different psychotherapy schools, and is able to choose exactly your “hat style”for you.
There are different methods, you need to pass them with a professional, do not read books a la “how to be happy in three days”!
When working with a professional in psychology or psychiatry, the result is possible even in one visit, depending on the depth and nature of the injury.
You can start by accepting the situation simply as a fact – say yes to it instead of the usual “no”. It has already happened, so it is. This is already the past. You do not need to rest, do not accept what happened, deny, “try to forget/switch/ignore”, and apply other leavened, everyday tips on psychology, you need to get around it.
The past is accepted, worked out on the subject of ” what was I wrong/what could I have done differently?”, then move on.
It is necessary to accept, to be aware of every moment passed, the most sometimes unpleasant experience is our experience.
Personally, when I try to forget something unpleasant, I remember it even more often than happy moments. And at the same time, the pleasant things are forgotten, and I have to think only about what I really wanted to forget. Oh, I messed up something. Well, nothing, who did not understand-he will understand 🙂
Our memory is paradoxical: the more we want to forget, the harder it is to forget. Unwittingly, we check whether we have forgotten well, and then remember again. But for a long time, people have been using techniques for managing their own memory. Most often, these are memorization techniques (mnemonics), but there are also techniques of forgetting (letotechnics, so called after the river of oblivion — Leta). Usually, flight technicians are associated with external fixation of the information that needs to be forgotten, and its subsequent external destruction. For example, you can write down what you want to forget on a piece of paper and burn it, or you can write it down with chalk on a blackboard and erase it. It is not a fact that it will work out the first time: you need to learn any techniques for managing your own psyche. Or you can try to come up with your own technique of forgetting: what if it turns out to be the most effective one?
I've heard that every time you think about something you don't want to remember, you need to hurt yourself, for example, prick your finger with a pin. After some time, the brain will begin to block these memories on its own. On the other hand, is it necessary?
Don't rush to suffer from amnesia! You can't forget anything on purpose! You can hide a memory, but you can do this with the help, first of all, of time, which will forget everything. Switch to other goals in life, and the old ones will fade into the background and be forgotten. But one day it will definitely remind you of itself. Probably, the head is conducting an “audit” and is stirring up the old stuff. Memory is a complicated thing! Good luck!
I do it automatically) well, yes, you need to give yourself an installation. Then, everything will definitely work out. It often happens that other people remember some situations with my participation, but I don't-as if it never happened)
In the new world, which will come very soon, all the bad things will be forgotten and will not even come to the heart. This is the promise made by God, our Creator. It created our brain, which scientists call the most complex object in the universe.
I'm not an expert, but I'm a bit into autogenic training. I had moments when I really wanted to forget something, I searched for information about it, but I didn't find anything concrete. As a result, I came up with the idea to use auto-training. I don't even know the first step perfectly, but I decided to try at least to get closer to the second, and in this state I told myself that something didn't happen to me that I want to forget, and I don't remember it at all. It's funny, but it turned out the first time. It's not that I completely forgot it, but rather these memories were just somehow blocked, they seem to be there, and if I really strain myself, I will remember, but they don't come up by themselves and I don't even want to remember. I don't really know how to describe this condition.
On the other hand, the fact is that mastering at least the basic techniques of auto-training still takes some time, desire and self-discipline. But all the information is available on the Internet. You can read it, try it out, and do it yourself.
http://www.ted.com/playlists/196/the_complexity_of_memory Here you can find almost all the TED talk materials about memory and how to learn. But theoretically, our brain is designed in such a way that it has two main departments of short-term and long-term memory. Theoretically, if you constantly load your memory with new impressions, then the growth of new neurons will consist instead of breaking the connections of the old ones, but in this case it will work poorly with long-term memory, because all the information passes from the first block to the second. Of course, this block can be damaged not only surgically, but also by exposure to tobacco, alcohol, drugs, etc. as a result, you will get an artificial version of dementia – do you need it?
If I understood Erickson this way, he said that a mandatory action causes reluctance to perform it. Although, whoever said it, it sounds quite natural and obvious. In any case, I agree with this idea and believe that it works. I think it works on memories (obsessive thoughts, in this case).
Write in your schedule to think about something, say, for 3 (ideally 5-7, but decide for yourself) minutes 4 times a day at the same time. You can think whenever you want, but on a schedule, please drop everything and do just that. Make it mandatory. Perform efficiently and conscientiously. When thinking, do not go away from the topic, do not get distracted, but do not limit yourself to anything within the boundaries of the topic itself (“So, now I will think about X”), analyze everything, rub all the bones and details. And if necessary, several times. Don't deviate from the plan. After completing the task, switch to another task. If you decide to think for 7 minutes, think 7 by the hour, no more, no less. Strictly and honestly with yourself. To do this, you can try to put real things after this mental operation. This may help, but it's not essential. The main thing is to make this operation mandatory as much as possible. Over time, you will no longer enjoy savoring the details of your past moments. I think a week should be enough (in very severe cases, you may need more). And it is better not 4 but 6-8 times a day. When (not earlier than 3-4 days) you say something like “fuck, again” and roll your eyes, you can talk about some changes and that, perhaps, you got off and you can stop repeating this “rite”.
Good luck)
I think only a very organized person can learn this. Only if it does not touch the deepest emotions, the most intimate, there are two big differences between what can be forgotten.
Perhaps there are psychological techniques, but I would pay attention to another issue.
Your desire to forget is a bit illogical, it goes against the usual rules of logic.
If you forget something, you don't know that you forgot it, you don't remember it anymore, so how do you see the result for yourself? Obviously, no way. That is, you also need an outside observer ( some kind of psychoanalyst) to help you with this.
And yet, when he tells you that you are doing great and forgot something, you will immediately start trying to remember, because you will be interested.
Also a paradox.
You can learn techniques to help you manage your memories.
Conscious displacement.
You need a psychologist or better psychotherapist who knows NLP techniques, but not only NLP, you need a competent psychotherapist who is not fixated on one technique, is familiar with different psychotherapy schools, and is able to choose exactly your “hat style”for you.
There are different methods, you need to pass them with a professional, do not read books a la “how to be happy in three days”!
When working with a professional in psychology or psychiatry, the result is possible even in one visit, depending on the depth and nature of the injury.
You can start by accepting the situation simply as a fact – say yes to it instead of the usual “no”. It has already happened, so it is. This is already the past. You do not need to rest, do not accept what happened, deny, “try to forget/switch/ignore”, and apply other leavened, everyday tips on psychology, you need to get around it.
The past is accepted, worked out on the subject of ” what was I wrong/what could I have done differently?”, then move on.
It is necessary to accept, to be aware of every moment passed, the most sometimes unpleasant experience is our experience.
The essence is healing through awareness.