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Because even though we are both sexes – people, but we are completely two different biological forms. For us, love, relationships, work, sex, etc. are very different things. Now most men do not try to study women, so they consider them the same men, just with breasts and a hole between their legs. And women, on the contrary, see him as himself, who feels and understands everything, but they see that he does not understand anything and seems to offend on purpose. From that, most of the problems.
Because they don't want to. I've already had enough of all these stupid pseudo – analytical statements about “female logic”, “a special female way of thinking and perception”, “Mars and Venus”, but if you express dissatisfaction, you will immediately get a dose of rudeness in response.�
Did you know that the vast majority of philologists in Russia are women? Go to any philology or literature department and see for yourself. But a user named Notontis Mahamba arrogantly encourages women to “learn to speak with words.” (By the way, women are better at words than men because of the more developed areas of the brain responsible for speech.)
And it's also a lot of fun to throw off videos and funny stories about another “stupid woman” who says illogical things. Here are just a lot more stories about the “stupid man”, but they are all explained in some other way. “The cop is stupid”, ” the phone seller burns!”, “the deputy is inadequate” – it's like everything about men. That is, there are many more stories about the “stupid man” than about the “stupid woman”, but how can you destroy the great legend about “female logic”?
You can't destroy this legend, because it's a defense. Men are often shy about women. And the more shy they are , the more they build fictional boundaries and come up with nonexistent categories. Previously, the status of a man as more worthy, important, useful to society was taken for granted. And you could relax and arrogantly teach the woman “mind-to-mind”. And now what? Equal rights. Women are everywhere-in politics, business, sports, and science. They are beautiful, smart, and successful. They are more successful than our sofa “psychologist”. So what's left for him? That's right, irony and devalue. “Women's logic, ho-ho”, “learn to speak in words, dear women, hee-hee”, ” che, how is it on Venus, gee-gee?”. “Nipanimayu I these women! “(because it allows you to be like a little higher).
Why don't they understand? They understand it very well, so they prefer not to get involved again.
Sometimes it's easier to pretend to be a fool than to explain why you said that later.
It is especially pleasant to do this after a few days. You've already forgotten what you said and why, and she remembers and spins it all in her head.
I worked in LLC “Strek”, there was a colleague Sergey. We go home from work, and he loudly says: “All women are bastards”! I told him: “It's not logical Seryoga turns out. Do you know all the women?” So which of us was more logical? But Seryoga really respected me.
Men often do not understand women why they have no restrictions in destroying relationships. There are no red lines that many men have. A man understands that beyond this line, relationships with another man will collapse and something will have to be done to restore them. You won't be able to communicate as if nothing has happened. The man tries to make sure that this does not happen. Women often do not follow this at all. In men, this causes consternation. After being humiliated, spat on, they come up to you as if nothing had happened and ask for something. The woman does not understand that the relationship is no longer there. Until you restore them, nothing will happen. No help, no interaction. Men understand this, but women often don't. Of course, this is the main trend, and not an iron rule. There are women who understand relationships, but how many of them? Men often do not understand how women can so recklessly give themselves to their selfishness in pursuit of the realization of their desires. In this pursuit, women can ignore anything, conscience, honor, relationships are not a hindrance, any means are good, blackmail, manipulation, turning out other people's motives. For men, this is really scary. Even if you take all this within the framework of selfishness, men are more careful egoists in these matters. They think about the consequences of such behavior and wonder why women most often do not do it at all.
There are many reasons, but I will only mention some of them:
Men and women have different perceptions of the same words.
For example, a woman tells her man that Vasya gives his Lyuska flowers once a week!!! The woman thinks that this way she hints that she wants to get flowers as a gift. And the Man perceives it as a uniform “hit-and-run”. And he says what do I care about Vasya, if he is so wonderful with him and live. As a result, everyone is offended.
Conclusion: if a woman wants to get something, you should ask directly.
The psyche works differently. For example, some extraordinary event occurred in the opinion of a woman. Of course, she is in a hurry to share this very important information with a man, because she just needs to talk out to relieve stress. A man who is preoccupied with his own problems is not ready to listen to her, because he does not see anything catastrophic and says something in the style of you are overly dramatizing. Everything is a conflict. He doesn't understand me.
Conclusion, if a woman needs to speak out, it is necessary to clearly indicate to the man that it is necessary that he just listens and that's all.�
Different physiology. The mood of a woman is a huge ocean that changes its currents, winds, and water speed countless times a day. A man is more emotionally stable. And as a result, a man does not always have time to catch a change in mood, adjust to it, and so on.
The conclusion is to remind a man that you should not react sharply to all the emotional outbursts of a woman. And do not forget that a man reacts more slowly to the emotional background.
In general, the topic is very, very extensive and within the framework of one post it is not possible to consecrate it more or less completely. People write dissertations on this topic…
For a general understanding of this topic, I highly recommend reading:
Men are from Mars, women are from Venus-a book by psychologist John Gray.
Who doesn't understand? Don't you understand? I understand women, as you say, not because I'm a telepath, but because I talk to normal women.
Yes, a huge number of girls and women, even in our “advanced” time, speak in hints, take offense at the slightest disregard for their feelings, and faint at the word “dick”. And this is not even just a female habit now – all sorts of feminine boys who have learned all the charms of being TA are connected to the ladies.�
But at the same time, thank God, more and more normal girls appear: capable of discussion, not incoherent whining, bold and intelligent. I'm not saying that the former are necessarily bad, and the latter are always good. It's just that if you want to meet exactly the second option, then try to chat with tech girls/scientists in supermarkets or in interest groups: it's almost impossible to be a TA and do real science.
Rinat
Mutual understanding between the sexes implies love. The reason for this misunderstanding is the spread of feminism. Feminists are not capable of a woman's feat, but they passionately desire a man's feat. They can't wait for it and therefore believe that all men are their own… Manipulations begin, whims that harass a man. This is the end of mutual understanding.
They need to learn a simple secret: a man's feat is always a response to a woman's feat in the form of selfless love. A man's feat is as passionate an impulse as a woman's selfless love. This impulse can not appear as a result of manipulation, whims or blackmail. Self-serving love, the game of love does not give rise to a man's impulse to feat. Mutual understanding without love dies.
I perfectly understand women and, in general, people!!! I often disagree, but I understand. Or at least I try to understand. Many women (people) naively believe that understanding means agreeing and even obeying. To their great regret, THIS is NOT THE CASE!!!
No, they don't want to, but because the woman's words contain her mother's thoughts…
– a woman checks a man first with her own thoughts, and in case of a “bummer”, she includes her mother's theory on managing a man… and this alternation occurs constantly…
That's why the man accuses her of a little stupidity…
And how to respect a stupid one?
You can only “Love” it… before her brain shut down… that's when a woman understands-who is the owner of the house…
But a woman can also have lovers… and so it has a lot of ” owners!” Hence the logic breaks…
People generally don't understand each other well and are reluctant to do so. Because it is difficult, it is a certain amount of work,you need to strain yourself.
Regarding women, when communicating with different-sex people, everything is more difficult, because 1. they are more different from each other 2. communication takes place at ,,short,, distance and often there is nowhere to go, even for a short time,
an attempt to be alone only aggravates the situation.
I read it here. They write very intelligently. I'll add a drop.
It's not about the gender difference. The fact is that PEOPLE DO NOT UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER AT ALL-FROM THE WORD EVERYTHING!
There are exceptions when people are on the same page. But these are exceptions.
If a man and a woman are on the same wavelength – they understand each other and everything is OK with them!
If a child and an old man are on the same wavelength – they understand each other and everything is OK with them!
Etc…
A busy businessman, the head of a corporation, cannot understand right now and melt away from the sand house that a 3-year-old kid built.
A member of the radical Men's Movement cannot weep over the story of a rabid feminist who once read a book where a convict raped a prostitute…
It can't, it can't, it can't! There is antimatter and matter. It doesn't mix black and white in any way. It's not about the floors. It's about the position.
Catch your wave. Find the same person. It doesn't matter if it's a woman, a man, a scientist, a monkey, whatever. And there will be understanding. If a person is not on the same page with you, don't even think about it and forget that he understands you. Don't waste your energy, don't break your spears!
In my understanding, a woman should be kind, affectionate and patient. Modern women usually have exactly the opposite qualities. Many men therefore do not understand modern women.
Yes, an elementary way to rise at the expense of humiliating the opponent. Very funny in fact, when you consider that any soul in one life is a man, and in another a woman. I.e. while you are a woman you are being ridiculed, and as soon as you were born a man, arrogance immediately hit you.
a man perfectly understands a woman when he needs it and refuses to understand when they are trying to manipulate him .. quite a working method of protection .. sometimes it works even on a non-conscious level, but on the level of instincts .. “what do you mean I have to spend more on you than on myself ? I don't understand.”..
I have studied gender relations professionally. Too lazy to write in detail, but at least I'll give you the right direction.
So. First, M and W have different biological programs. This means that at the instinctive level, the foundations of the psyche are created for different tasks.
Imagine a primitive group of M and F and their child – a human pack. In this pack, M has the function of going to the outside world and getting meat and all sorts of things. And the function of W is to make M understand that his woman is very valuable and necessary, thus it needs to be provided for.
In other words, men's thinking is focused on exploring and conquering the outside world, while women's are focused on exploring emotions and conquering M for their survival.
For performing the biological role of the body, M or W distinguish harmons of happiness or unhappiness. So you can't run away from enmity.
Second. A very important point.
Because of the state equality, M and W are very often confused in their rank positions. There is such a thing as biorangs. Briefly, they can be shown like this: the male in the pack performs functions like a captain and an officer on a ship; and the female exclusively functions as an officer in the field of childbearing and any possible assistance to the captain.
This is also fixed instinctively. So for example, women can not experience an orgasm if she does not see her partner as her captain.
Similarly, a man cannot be aroused if he does not see his woman as an extension of himself.
The third. The evolution of the above points has revealed many other features. But I'm too lazy to write about them.
I suspect the question is a clear manifestation of sexism. Women are so complex and filigree, and men are so primitive and clumsy? In general, we are of a different world, nature of perception and intelligence? Let me agree. I don't understand why you should humiliate us in order to claim your loftiness. This is excessive, extremely unconstructive and unviable. Simply inadequate.
People generally don't understand each other very well. First, they are too concerned with themselves to be attentive to others. Hence, secondly, they believe that people should be the same, “just like Me.” And any reaction other than your own leads to confusion.
With proper observation and broad horizons, there are usually no difficulties with understanding.�
Here we must add that understanding is not the same as accepting and forgiving. Men rather do not accept women, because they do not like women for some reason.
Desires are different =) And so everyone understands each other, only very few people go to the meeting. It doesn't matter what gender a person is if you want the same thing, then everything is clear without words)