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In my somewhat amateurish understanding, these are difficulties in getting along with another person, uncompromising, extreme stubbornness, self-confidence, rejection of other people's opinions, inability to look at yourself from the outside, arrogance, inaccessibility, quarrel. In general, I recommend reading an essay by the brilliant Mikhail Mikhailovich Zhvanetsky:
http://vikent.ru/enc/3991/
A more professional opinion:
http://psiho.info/psihologiya-lichnosti/harakter/osnovnye-priznaki-haraktera-cheloveka.html
Such people are most often obsessed with unhealthy selfishness and are incapable of altruism. It seems to me that the main remedy in this case is to find something that will need regular care from such a person. He, in turn, will switch from himself to the world around him and may come to the conclusion that he is not the crown of creation and the center of the universe. However, there may be side effects: if a pet is taken into care, then it is possible that it will only aggravate the situation, because the owner of a harsh temper will receive proof of his own unsurpassability and will not adequately interpret it.
The next tip is to stop treating people in a deliberately consumerist way, and not build conspiracy theories about them. Not everyone wants to take advantage of others entirely for selfish reasons. It may happen one day that help will be needed and no one will respond, and there will be a lot of reasons for this. Once upon a time, they needed your (and our) politeness, reciprocity, respect for loved ones, complicity in their lives, and sincerity. No, we stepped over their heads or passed them sourly. Who knows, suddenly the girls from the Strelki group were right: “Everything will come back to us like a boomerang”?..
Often, changes in character for the worse occur over time and due to circumstances. Then you need to ask questions, take a critical look at yourself and try to identify the source of negative changes or open gestalts that led to emotional wounds, along with a compensatory reflex. Instructions for neutralizing a dormant volcano, in short.
If the reasons are deeper, or you are unfortunately powerless to fix anything, or you feel a lack of diplomatic skills, then you can contact a psychiatrist/psychotherapist. People with a difficult character are not exactly compliant, and some people are so specific that they will only listen to higher-level speakers.
Nonsense and impulsivity can be overcome by silence. Hysteria and anger ― they are mostly catalyzed by emotions, and only then caused by real dissatisfaction.
If a person is literally always tense and overly focused, then breathing exercises and generally releasing negative energy will help. Sports, fitness, hiking. Something that requires perseverance will also benefit. But, again, we must proceed from the characteristics of a particular person.