Is it possible to get rid of the feeling of meaninglessness of existence?
For quite a long time now, I have felt that life has no meaning at all. There is no motivation to do anything, because it is a stupidly elementary question: "And why?" destroys all my aspirations (of which there are already a few). And most of all, the sight of the starry sky kills me, it's worth looking up at night and my heart literally squeezes – billions of stars, an endless universe and me, a worthless, meaningless speck of dust (and that's not even there). And even if I become someone outstanding on our planet, nothing will change. I will remain a worthless crumb, sitting on a piece of rock that rushes through boundless space.
The question “Why?” is very correct and useful. It helps to separate the superfluous from the necessary. So that it can be easily answered, you can define the concepts of benefit and harm for yourself. If you look at what is happening around you, you can see that some processes lead to pain, suffering, anxiety, dissatisfaction, destruction. That is, to the detriment of all. Other processes, on the contrary, neutralize harm, create something pleasant, interesting, pleasing, necessary for life, remove anxiety and soreness. Here you can instead of the question “Why?” ask the question ” What is the harm and what is the benefit?”. If it is harmful, then don't do it, if it is useful, then do it. You have your own understanding of useful things, so you can find motivation to do something in them.
When you think, “I am a worthless, meaningless speck of dust,” you are delusional. In fact, all phenomena in the world are interdependent. Each speck of dust solves some problem. Just imagine that there is a very complex clockwork mechanism, which has a lot of parts, gears, springs. If the smallest and most seemingly unnecessary part in this mechanism stops working, the clock will show a different time or stop altogether. Because all the details are connected.
In addition, you have a magical power-it is your consciousness, your mind. Why magic? Because your consciousness opens up for you degrees of freedom that non-living objects do not have. All these billions of stars and planets are dust compared to you. Because they are not free to choose what to do. And you're free to go. They will fly in their orbits for billions of years, and you can create new things every day that didn't exist before. When you say, “If I become someone outstanding on our planet, nothing will change,” this is also an illusion. Because small changes under the right conditions lead to big consequences. Just like in this video where a tiny domino knuckle knocks over a huge one:
https://youtu.be/y97rBdSYbkg?t=50
Therefore, do not underestimate the consequences of your actions. You can create such a great benefit in your lifetime that it will affect the future of all living beings on Earth. And if humans evolve into other forms and spread out across the universe, these small changes can affect the entire world, even those planets and stars that we now see as luminous dots.
All is well with you!
Only a mature person asks “himself” such questions.
And this is understandable why.
It's time to get down to real business!
Here, only, it is not yet clear for what.
Calm down.
Pull yourself together.
And gradually the meaning will begin to open up.
The main thing is to see.
Everything you need you already have.
Reading what you have written, I get to know myself in many ways. Similar thoughts occur to me, but oddly enough, listening to you, I suddenly thought, how can you even say that you are a worthless person? Moreover, unlike me, you are quite young. You have a whole life ahead of you, and you haven't seen or experienced much yet. Right now, when I answer you, I'm beginning to understand that even if you don't understand what I'm saying, I'll think that at least I tried to help you, which means that I can be of some use to you.
Look around you, and maybe people who need support and attention also need you, your participation. And you don't have to be great and famous to do this, just be yourself and love those around you.
Can. People are born for each other. Yes, and it's nice to feel useful for someone or for society.
Being needed is one of the needs of a person, and if you are useful, then you are in demand. In addition, self-esteem increases. Well, you don't feel like anything at all.
Where should I start? If this is a young person, then start volunteering. There are a lot of vacancies and groups, you can safely join. Plus, friendly communication and expanding your horizons.
You can start from your own territory. Restore order in the room, in the house. Help single people-pensioners, disabled people, etc., unobtrusively. Or maybe try to clean the entrance. It's very pleasant, we enjoy the result of our work.
You can have fun with everything. What substances give you a sense of satisfaction? It is caused by certain neurotransmitters:
Serotonin. It's a neurotransmitter that makes us feel important.
Oxytocin. It gives you a sense of harmony with the world. It is a substance of inner peace.
Endorphin. Do you dream about the ease of being? Do you want to get rid of your anxiety? You need endorphin. Another useful property of the neurotransmitter: it reduces pain symptoms.
Dopamine. But dopamine is pure joy. It is this substance that we get when something pleasant happens to us.
There are many ways to get neurotransmitters.
May I ask how old you are?”
And let me clarify a couple more aspects…
The meaninglessness of human, “HIGH” ideas and ideals, which in fact turn out to be at best zilch, at worst a Humanitarian catastrophe, on a planetary scale.
All patriotism seems to be an epitaph, on a fresh monument, Society is a soulless bunch of zombies who are trying to” TURN ” into a walker, sometimes biting very painfully.
The actions of others, in an extreme situation, seem hysterical and stupid.
If all of the above applies to you, (With a minimal difference), CONGRATULATIONS!!!
PsigoLOH oh, sorry PSYCHOLOGIST, will call all this a “MIDLIFE CRISIS”, well, taking the money for the consultation-will send with God.
I will tell you – YOU perceive the facts ADEQUATELY, just on an emotional level, and you are not quite ready to accept them yet.
Be patient, emotions will subside, and a healthy perception will remain. Just do not try to WASH down your feelings with alcohol, you will ruin 100% of your liver, and the final will be not only meaningless, but also extremely painful.