What if all the motivation dies from the thought that I will die?
Because of her, I don't see the point of anything. The idea that life is one and you need to live it well, does not help?
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Anastasia, good afternoon. I am a professional psychologist. Such thoughts often occur to people. What's the catch with this question structure: people accidentally link two circumstances into one. That is: life is life. It has its own laws. If I understand my needs well, then I live a great life. Death is death. It has its own laws, which do not correspond to life. This is hard to understand, because people live by stereotypical ideas that someone else came up with, and they heard. And the man believed. If I come to Turkey for an all-inclusive vacation, I fully enjoy the fact that I have 10 days. Do I really need to “poison” my rest with the thought that I will leave there? Where is the logic? is there one? I wake up in the morning and get high. Life is a buffet. Why put stale crusts on your plate if you have pancakes with condensed milk? Thanks for the question.
We'll all die when the time comes. And it just needs to be accepted. Stop dwelling on it. Who makes you think so? You yourself. This means that only you can stop thinking about it.
Try practicing gratitude every morning for 10 days. It really helps to find yourself in the moment. When I lose motivation and I start to mope, or be afraid of something, it always helps me.
When I wake up in the morning, I say thank you to the universe for a beautiful new day, for the people around me, for being healthy and seeing this new day. Thank you for the place where I live and for the fact that my loved ones are healthy and happy. I thank the universe for protecting and caring for me. And at that moment, I realize that I am already a happy person. That I'm safe. Try it-it really works.
And remember, no matter what awaits you tomorrow-it does not exist, do not hold on to the past-it is gone. You have just ONE day to live your life happily-TODAY!
Well, fuck it, with the meaning of life. Meaning in life itself, actually. A person may well get out of bed in the morning and do whatever it is just to please himself today, tomorrow, next week, next year.
What difference does it make to you, by and large, how many lives you have there? Don't you like the one you have? Make it more enjoyable. Buy yourself a pie, in the end, enjoy the pie. Go to the theater, take a walk with friends, have a beer or whatever you like.
Enjoy and forget about the meaning. The point is precisely this-to be happy while still alive.
And if you have problems with joy, then this is for you to see a therapist for pills for depression.
Life is infinite, because it is impossible to draw the opposite conclusion. To conclude that life is finite, this very end (death) must be registered. But after death and during the lunch break, registration does not work)
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Everyone has to die, because death is a manifestation of the Supreme Personality of Godhead (mrtyuh sarva-haras caham) and no one can avoid it. However, if a person becomes a devotee, he may live longer than he is destined to. The life of any living entity is limited, but for a devotee it can be prolonged, because the Supreme Personality of Godhead is able to deliver the living entity from the consequences of His karma by His mercy. Karmani nirdahati kintu ca bhakti-bhajam. Thus says the Brahma-samhita (5.54). The laws of karma do not affect the devotee. By the causeless mercy of the Supreme Personality of Godhead, a devotee may live longer than he is destined to. This means that God protects the devotees even from such a terrible danger as death.
What makes you think we're going to die?” Technology and science do not stand still and there are already successes in extending life. Therefore, you just need to live and hope that you will be able to live to the day when the pill for aging and death will appear. However, it is desirable to save up more money, because at first it will probably cost a lot. Another question is whether there is meaning in life, regardless of whether it is finite or infinite, and here I am now inclined to believe that we should fill our lives with meaning ourselves.
This is atheistic thinking. In a person, only his physical shell dies. In the Old Testament, you can find a text about the creation of man. And the Lord formed man from the dust of the ground and breathed life into him. It is the breath of God that is the immortal component that we call the soul, and therefore life. Rest assured, your individual Self is not going anywhere.
I know the answer. but I'm afraid that the truth will do you more harm than good. But if you're sure I'm wrong, let me know. But I warn you. you may not like the answer.
You are quite right – the finiteness of life makes it absolutely meaningless.
The idea that there is only one life and you should live it well, in principle, cannot help, because it is highly illogical. If life is one and there will be nothing after it, then why live it well? Who needs it? The one who will die? What difference does it make? And what does that even mean, “good”? Any life can be called “good”, because, for sure, someone's life will be worse…
Fazil Iskander does not call the “pathos of disposability” the last stage of atheism for nothing. Ideas about the disposable nature of life make us treat it the same way we treat disposable dishes. Hardly anyone will think to put disposable dishes in the sideboard and admire it.
Try to understand that you will not die. This is not only more comforting, but also more in line with reality.
Think about the following statements at your leisure, maybe they will motivate you to look for a higher meaning in life, not limited to the half-empty concept of “good”. These are not logical proofs, but some intuitively perceived truths:
In order for a body consisting of many heterogeneous and partially independent parts (organs, cells) to exist and function as a single whole, there must be a single integrating force. Without such an integrator, the smooth functioning of heterogeneous parts is impossible.
This single integrating force, the source of energy of consciousness that permeates our entire body, must be atomic, that is, indivisible into its component parts. If the source of consciousness, the carrier of our “I”, was a composite mechanism, it could not have an independent value or dignity.
The source of consciousness must be unchangeable, because otherwise we would not be able to observe the changes that are happening to us.
The very fact of the rejection of death and the constant attempts of man to solve this seemingly unsolvable problem indicates that the carrier of consciousness is eternal.
Just as ideas about the finiteness of life completely devalue and make it meaningless, ideas about the eternity of the soul, the carrier of consciousness, motivate a person to seek the highest meaning of existence, which in itself can make us happy.
And what's so terrible about a person leaving the monitor, even if they really like the game they are playing at the computer?
And what's the big deal if, after completing the game, he decides to re-run it from scratch, with a different character? This is an absolutely natural search for joy and happiness in the world. Each time it is different to experience happiness from the fact that the grass is green, the sky is blue, hedgehogs snort… So, I got carried away with something.
Yes, exactly. I mean, at a certain point, you don't forget that you're in control of this body. And you feel like a player, not a character, even though your “keystrokes” very organically coincide with his movements.
Don't worry, you will have some experience in the future that will allow you to create miracles. That's exactly what I'm saying.
Good time of day.
Do you think that the motivation to live and do something interesting for you is gone forever? That from this day until the end you will be under the weight of the thought of death, not having the strength to lift a finger? It may seem so, of course, but at some point you will just get tired (provided that there are no neuroses that require the intervention of a psychotherapist/psychologist). A week, two weeks, a month. This idea of the finiteness of being, and the accompanying certainty of total meaninglessness, becomes boring and dulled over time. Especially if you delve into this topic, reading various works from Ecclesiastes with his eternal “vanity of vanities – all is vanity” to Julian Barnes ” Nothing to fear “(although the latter sanctifies a slightly different aspect of death). And that's natural, don't you think? For how else should it end? When I, being in another fit of awareness of the futility of everything and everything, again spread this sad rhetoric, a friend said, they say, – well, get into the coffin and lie with folded hands on the same perishable chest, since everything is meaningless! And don't spoil the mood with your lean face.
And indeed, after all, “it will pass”! However, not forever. For the problem is not solved – meaning that transcends the fact that you will die and perhaps nothing of you will remain here is not found. Universal, there is certainly no world, sadness is a misfortune. Yes, and the planet Earth itself, perhaps, will someday disappear along with all our cultural heritage, accumulated over the centuries (oh, I'm even more sad about this than for myself). It's a long way from transhumanism (and it's hardly necessary), so you have to get out of it with more real things.�
Personal meanings are individual, dynamic properties of a person, and a person develops in the process of activity. A person is in “eternal becoming” all his life, personal meanings disappear, but then they reappear. As for the emotional and psychological background, it happens today apathy, melancholy, you look at everything through the prism of decay, meaninglessness, it's hard to wake up in the morning (because why? ah, fuss, all fuss!), and tomorrow you've already picked up an interesting book filled with practical thoughts and you're absorbed in it, or you've learned about some interesting spiritual practice, or you've come across a poem that's close to your soul and you want to get to know its author better, and so on. You start to recover. In general, such states are rather a part of our life. They are also useful in some way. They do not allow you to get up to your ears in the quagmire of imaginary values dictated by the same consumer society. You look at everything more critically, more soberly.
I would also like to know what your”anti-socialism” means. Do you mean that your ideas do not correspond to the values that society declares? Do you have problems building interpersonal connections? Or are they not interested in others at all? In any case, if there are any problems or attitudes, they should be resolved or changed (except for the first one about the discrepancy between values. In this case, it is more useful to find like-minded people :)). The need for communication, for self-realization is one of the basic ones for a person. Maybe, in part, because your spiritual development, your skills are not realized outside, even just in communication with one person, these existential crisis moments come? Or maybe you should do something creative, see if you can sublimate something useful? 😀
Well, in the end, you just need to learn to appreciate life, no matter how banal it may sound. Be in nature more often: “Learn from them-from the oak, from the birch.” Read Dostoevsky, monologues of his book. Myshkin or Elder Zosima. When you read them, at some point there is a feeling of joy from the fact that you are now, from the fact that you have the opportunity to think, create, develop; from the fact that you can do interesting things, talk to people, pet cats. With this attitude, the idea that there is also a downside-non-existence, which is even closer than it sometimes seems to us, and maybe even a certain feeling of borderline flickering in the subconscious mind only increases this bright feeling that you are still there! Although, if I was born in the Middle Ages or in modern Syria, I would not say so, but again, the meanings are personal. We create and destroy ourselves. However, in the Middle Ages they did not suffer from this – there was no time for this. Now you have to save yourself from hunger, then from the plague, then burn witches, because of which hunger and plague. And Viktor Frankl, for example, after passing through the German death camps, did not break down, on the contrary, it was there that he developed logotherapy.
Perhaps you will have the feeling described above in other circumstances, not when reading Fyodor Mikhailovich, but you should try to catch it, feel it, and fix it.
I highly recommend Stefan Zweig's short story “Fantastic Night”. The answer to your question is not there, but it is written on a similar topic. However, the most remarkable thing about it is the ending. And, of course, spend some time reading the chapters on death in Existential Psychotherapy. The author is the notorious Irwin Yalom. Standard advice when it comes to death.
“When Nietzsche cried, ” also a good thing in this state.
And also Sasha Cherny's poem “To the Patient”, from which I will probably finish with one quatrain:
Read about transhumanism. You may not really have to die, but for this, humanity will need to work hard. By the way, it can also help you find motivation: to work for humanity to quickly find ways to achieve physical immortality.
If you are young , you can go to study in a specialized specialty, for example, at the biofactory faculty. If you have already found your vocation, you can try to earn more money and start financially supporting research in the relevant areas. Well, or at least increase the chances for yourself personally to join the new achievements of science (after all, it is clear that at least for the first time they will be very expensive).
Or maybe you will feel a little better when you think about the fact that humanity as a whole is evolving, developing, making scientific, technical, cultural and other progress, while all of us are waiting for not just death, but universal death? We will eventually disappear as a species. Our planet will cease to exist, our solar system will perish, and the entire universe will follow it. Humanity doesn't last forever. But if it seemed to each of us that it was pointless to go forward, simply because the final is a foregone conclusion, we would still be hunting mammoths (this is at best). So don't look for a higher meaning – it may not exist at all. Just do what you have to, and let it be what it will be.
In that case, I would start rethinking my attitude to death. Well, to life, too, because thinking about death while ignoring life seems wrong to me.
I would try to come to terms with the fact that I'm going to die sooner or later.
Well, I would try to do something meaningful without meaning.
Those. yes, from some points of view, nothing makes sense, but maybe it's for the best, because from other points of view, meaning is a killer limiter of freedom and creativity (and the hedonism mentioned above), too.
From the third point of view, the meanings are not only some global, but also local, and the fact that they are fundamentally worse. However, this is a matter of personal preference.
There is also an alternative: do not fool yourself and use Occam's razor: any reflections from the impermanence of being and total meaninglessness are superfluous entities.
If you get rid of them, then nothing bad will happen at all, but your quality of life will slightly improve.