Most people in their youth are tormented by such questions. We must try. There is never any result and understanding without practice. Choose several options that you like, try yourself in different ones.
I found my purpose – and I really want to believe that I will stay on this path in life from now on – simply. In short, it's a case in point. In more detail: a drum kit was found in the basement of my house (terribly broken, by the way, and also incomplete), and I did not immediately begin to learn to play it. Over time, I realized that I could not imagine my life without music, and I began to invest more and more effort, time and money in developing my skills, but I do not regret anything – using a hackneyed metaphor, I will say that music has made me more alive than ever: this is creativity, this is a passion, a need for development, this is an activity that brings pleasure, but sometimes a headache.
So that's what this whole cart is all about. If I hadn't made up my mind from the very beginning (and I was sure I didn't have a sense of rhythm or hearing, which I was happily mistaken about), I probably would have ended up hanging around in this world. Yes, I had a lucky chance, but I, and this is important, was able and wanted to take advantage of it. So my message is: don't be afraid to grab your lucky ticket, even if it doesn't turn out to be a fucking lucky one. A person who always says to himself “this is not mine”, so this is the most “own” and will never find it. Trite, of course, but it is sometimes important to voice and put into words.
It seems to me that the vast majority of people at the age of 17 do not know what to do in life. Someone does not know this at 30, someone at 50. Don't despair. Tip: Don't stay out of work while studying at UNI or college. Be sure to work, try yourself in different roles. Gain experience. This will allow you to more or less understand your inclinations and determine exactly what you do not want to do.
I've already written it a hundred times. Write on a piece of paper what you definitely don't want to do and go from the opposite. //what is the limit of one hundred and forty characters., W
To begin with, you should divide the Case by goal:
To make a profit
To create something (it is clear that later it can bring profit) In the first case, the case is selected based on:
Of the region
Your abilities
Your resources
Your connections
Time to make a profit
Competitive advantages
Ability to negotiate and manage In the second case, the case is selected based on:
Of your interest
Your abilities
The scale of thinking
Opportunities for obtaining an investment or other type of financing
Your hard work Therefore, decide why you want your business. Then evaluate your resources. Analyze the local market or find an interesting unsolved problem. But most importantly, if we talk about profit, carefully look around and look for those needs of people that no one meets. Or they are not satisfied enough. Evaluate them in terms of their ability to meet these needs. If you can, start, try. There will be mistakes, losses, expenses, and successes. You see, some initiative will shoot and become your business. You don't know where you'll find it, where you'll lose it.
First, about the purpose: The purpose of all people is the same-working outKarma, forDevelopmentSoul, in order to get rid of it in the future and go out on your ownPersonality.
ToThis category does not include: children, improving the world, helping others, etc. Abstract and systematic tasks.
(To avoid wasting time on outraged comments, please specify: this is my knowledge and my orientation. You can stay with your opinion and justify it.)
“Finding yourself” is a dual question. For me, the word “self” implies something deep that does not manifest itself in everyday consciousness and it is difficult to get to this center. In society, this (“find yourself”) means something else – a person and its implementation. Further, I will write not from my own, but from the social attitude to this.
You can lose yourself only in the case of a strong orientation to external rules and personal ideals: what you need to be, who you need to be, how you need to behave, good and bad qualities, useful and bad habits.�
Focusing on external assessments and personality parameters, a person ceases to see himself as real. And first of all, it stops seeing its most important resource: the physical body. Arms, legs, head. This is followed by intelligence, interests, skills, knowledge, mentality, and experience. I do not know a person who does not have enough of these basic resources for a full and happy life. You just need to look at yourself again and see them.�
Very important: it is absolutely impossible to impose social assessments and comparisons on your basic resources. This destroys their foundation and robs a person of Strength.
Next, you need to re-consider your needs. Primary and strategic issues. The primary ones are the needs for maintaining physical existence: food, clothing, a roof over your head. Everything. there are no others. If the primary needs are chosen from the position of “like someone; like a successful person; to be recognized; to be admired; as expected” – this is the beginning of the end as a Reasonable being, this is a process of degradation.
Strategic-these are the needs for intellectual, cultural, professional, and creative development. As they develop, their primary needs also change. Exactly in this sequence.
This is the beginning of the process of returning “to yourself”. To the person you were born with. And only then does the path open up to who you want to become.
Having identified your primary and strategic needs, you need to apply your core resources to meet them now. And determine what needs to be developed and supplemented in yourself so that you can realize your strategic needs.�
Very important: When determining what needs to be developed or supplemented, do not categorically evaluate it from the positions: useful-harmful, positive-negative, successful-unsuccessful. This is all nonsense. Choose only what you really need right now and objectively increase your efficiency in moving through life. It doesn't matter how the people around you feel about it.
What do you need to know and accept?: When you begin to “return to yourself” and develop yourself, you will definitely face criticism from your social circle. Your friends and acquaintances will not allow you to change. especially in the best way for you. This is unequivocal. you should understand that if you really develop and “return to yourself”, at least 70% of your social circle will leave you.
This is enough time to start working on your issue.
Each of us was a child, and each of us had a favorite game. The one that made you forget everything. When mom shouts from the kitchen: “Baby, it's time for lunch!”, and you do not hear her – so interesting is your game! You are sitting on a carpet in the center of the room, and there is nothing but this game – you give yourself up to it completely. Conditionally, this game is what you should do in life.
You can't find it, but you can create it. Develop the skill of what you are interested in, you will gradually develop in this, set a higher quality bar, then people will start ordering work from you, and so in a few years you will become a professional, and neophytes will consider that “a person has found his vocation”. This idea that you need to look for it is a delusion.
Search. Constantly. If you like something , try it, don't be afraid. A new experience is always an experience, often positive. It will add friends, connections, and skills. Perhaps you think about the time spent? Well, maybe it's better to spend 4 years in an unloved university? 30 years in an unloved job? Isn't that a waste of time? Try it and don't be afraid, zhishchn loves adventurers.
Ask yourself what you're interested in, what you like to do, what you're good at, and what you can do without getting annoyed. Find at least one activity that doesn't cause depression, melancholy, or annoyance.Figure out if you like working with people, or vice versa. Once you have decided, find out what professions are associated with this activity, what you can learn and get a profession.
It is not easy for everyone in this life to understand what role they are assigned and what they are capable of. In this case, of course, it is better not to give up what you started, try hard , the fruits of some business will definitely remind you of yourself, and what happens, as a rule, always motivates you to move on. In any case, do not get hung up and live as you live , it will all come with time, especially if you are still young.
This is one of the most difficult questions. But there is one simple method that can initially somehow get off the ground in studying this issue. We see a lot of people in our lives, and there are some that we admire. There are some that are interesting to us and somehow close in spirit. And if you analyze these reactions, you can outline some likely direction for yourself. For starters, at least.
You should not look for some higher purpose or mission. Just live, enjoy life, love and get to know the world, do what you like, and create conditions for yourself so that you don't have to do what you don't like.�
There is an incredible book on this subject. Viktor Frankl “Man in search of Meaning”. A scientist-psychotherapist who went through Auschwitz and managed to take out the most valuable life experience from there. From the conditions where a person is deprived of absolutely everything, and the only remaining freedom is the choice of his reaction to external circumstances. The first half of the book describes the life of the concentration camp and the experiences of the people there. And the second is an analysis of all this from the point of view of psychology.
A child with a disability can be perceived as a punishment or a tragedy, or it can be considered a fate-forming element and a reason to change something in this world, find resources in yourself and show how to become happy, despite a lifelong diagnosis. Now, after 4 years of successful rehabilitation, I understand that it was not for nothing that so much moral effort and material resources were spent. And recently I was asked if I would like to share my experience and help other parents, give them hope?
So I finally understood what my purpose is, my mission in this life. I would like to believe that the project that my like-minded friends and I are preparing will really open up new opportunities for children with special needs and their families.
And here, in fact, is the answer to the question: do not look for your destination, when the time comes, it will find you by itself.
In my opinion, the best way to determine your purpose is to do what your loved ones want you to do. After all, the purpose of it is to make your loved ones happy and, as far as possible, distant ones too.� Parents, if they are good parents, know you very well and can tell you what is best for you. Close friends can also be good advisors in this regard.� There is no point in focusing on fashion, public opinion, or economic needs if your future occupation will not please your loved ones. There is another way – Vedic astrology (jyotish). Just try it out and decide for yourself whether it suits you or not. But the first method works 100%
There are many search paths, but the easiest and fastest one is the following:
Write down 50 things that you love to do or would love to do if you had the opportunity to do them. Write down those activities that are difficult to break away from and are never lazy. Spend as much time as possible on this list. Make sure to write at least 50.�
From these classes, write down all the things that you have the ability/talent to do that you could become a master at, or that you could do better than most if you learn�
After all, from the remaining ones, write out what is most appreciated by other people or, in other words, what you can earn most from
I was helped to determine exactly one way, Buddhist, or something) Answer the question: What would you do if you had infinite money? For example, I would have fun and travel, my main hobby would be tuning the best cars and racing them, that is, I just need to get a technical education, work with the same cars, other entertainment in my spare time, with experience in 10-20 years I will be able to develop my work in any direction up to business, and almost during my studies everything coincides with my
Of course, there are career guidance tests, but they can show the industry, but not the specialty.�
The simplest and most difficult way at the same time, observe yourself, how and in what way you act in business. Not What you do, but How. This will show your instrumental character function, the way you solve your problems and challenges in life. You can realize how to turn it into a profession.
Go from the opposite: identify what you don't like. Do you like the idea of living in the country? Do you like face tattoos? Do you like Asian cuisine? Do you like the color brown? (I am by no means suggesting that the answer to all these questions is “no”) This exercise will help you at least discard some of the ideas and things that you definitely don't want to strive for. Perhaps, in the process, you will come up with images that will cause you a uniquely positive response. Remember these images. Go back to them from time to time, watch their dynamics.�
Most likely, there are a lot of things that you like, but you just can't remember them right now.
Do not be afraid to try different activities, be curious, even if it seems that it is not up to you. Sooner or later, you will stop at something of your own. After all, it can not be uninteresting if you choose your own occupation. The main thing is not to sit still waiting for an epiphany, but to do something, explore the world around you.
Perhaps it is worth giving in to impulses a little more selflessly, not “half a bump”, not just with enthusiasm, but with an understanding of the “depths of the issue”. The more and more fully you try it out, the more obvious it should become to what exactly there is both a craving and a talent)
It was all very simple. Studying at a special school and knowing English from childhood, I had to go straight to INYAZ, as the institute was then called. Maurice Toreza. More precisely, as we joked as a child in the first grade, we all dreamed of being diplomats, by the fifth we understood that only a few would enter MGIMO. When my parents were a restorer and an engineer, I didn't have a career beyond translation and didn't enjoy it. But the disease also destroyed these dreams, and after spending half of the ninth and tenth grade in hospitals, it was impossible to think about any further education. To be even more precise . then the doctors were confused with the diagnoses and my parents took me to be baptized in the church, where my mother worked at that time at an unscheduled time. �And although I helped her earlier and rather at the official site of the Church of the Intercession in Fili, I realized that the monuments are mine. There was something native and fascinating about them. Having gone on the mend after the baptism, I made the final decision to follow in my mother's footsteps, and I didn't have the strength for anything else. She has worked for more than 30 years. I don't regret it. In this case, it seems that everything is really the will of God. I still love monuments. You need to love what you do and then it will delight you in life.
It is not difficult to understand what you like to do (people above suggested good advice with writing out strengths, etc.), it is always difficult to choose one of several things, and then resist running to a related activity. And the constant question in my head is, what if I did this instead of this, what would change in my life? Maybe I've become more successful and so on. It seems to me that the main thing in the purpose is not the correctness of the path itself, but its implementation. How do we start throwing? When difficulties come and we don't see any results from our current activities. The fact is that if you wait a little longer, the results will be there, but we are always rushing around and do not understand that the task for us was to hold on, and not change course. Purpose is a series of micro-goals that we achieve in one field of our choice. If we successfully achieve them in our entire life, we fulfill our purpose, since its task is to train our soul, will and character.
I'm still not sure if the search was deliberate. It's just that after-school drawing classes were added to a number of hobbies and then won the tender in college. And since the situation in the family taught me to finish things at a very young age, I decided not to give up this pleasant business, where you can think about your own and about everything. There is a university behind the college, and another one in parallel. Then a series of works, where, thanks to the managers, they made it clear what is good and what is bad.
Advice from these letters is unlikely to work, but my situation looks like this : I do what I like. First of all, the responsibility, interest, accessibility and development of the topic of art and design did not allow me to get out of the vague stream of events, where I ended up.
“The most common mistake is to go to work where you don't want to, because they pay well there. Don't do that. You will last a maximum of a year or two, then you will send it all up your ass and treat your nerves for another six months. ” – from the previous comment, it was unrealistic to smile about the treatment.
I don't believe that every person has a certain great purpose in life, there is something of megalomania in this. There are several hundred geniuses of the level of Leonardo da Vinci and Zuckerberg that the world has learned about. To do what we want and enjoy, to be useful to the world around us, or at least not to harm – this is what we are looking for. At different stages of life, there may be different purposes: while a woman with a small child-her purpose is to be a mother, the children grow up – she goes into politics. One woman, a resident of Tasmania, eight children, music education, worked all her life as a financier. When the children grew up, she gave up her career as a financier, spent three years copying works by old masters in a shed in the garden – now she is a world-famous pastelist, the highest level of artistic works, recognizable style.
I can't say that all my goals have been found so far. As a child, I enjoyed drawing, math, and foreign languages. Those activities that put you, I'm not afraid of the word, in a trance. While solving a problem or reading a text in French, I fell out of the world around me and came back up again, experiencing a “sense of renewal”.
Writing came later – in the tenth grade I won the regional Olympiad in literature. Public recognition tends to push you towards vocations. A few years ago, I started writing methodological articles on the study of foreign languages-as a result of ten years of work in this field. There was a need to systematize observations, share and fight the Russian plague – ignorance of foreign languages after 10 years of study.
It is also important to understand what you absolutely do not want – I rejected the role of a housewife and an office worker. The choice narrowed dramatically. Hence, the need to study foreign languages was organically met by the market demand for English teachers. At first, I didn't really like it, but because of the hopelessness in life at that time, I had to continue and adapt. Adaptation has not only taken us beyond stress. Gradually, pleasure came, creativity and development began.
Then there were two years of working in television. A screenwriter and correspondent. I was asked to write a test script, sat down and wrote it, and was offered a full-time job. Writing scripts turned out to be the most enjoyable activity, but I was a temporary correspondent for a month and a half. Screenwriting has been postponed for now, and I'm saving it for retirement.
Don't be afraid to try – this is the most important thing. “Why not?” – correct question for suggestions that arise internally and externally. The result of any activity at first, to put it mildly, is not up to par. But this is not a reason to listen to the replicas: “You, my child, should not open your mouth, you should sing no further than the shower.” However, to bother people with their opuses and ballads is unnecessary.
I continued to draw in adulthood, everything turned out to be much more serious than handwriting on weekends. Now painting is already one of the top three main vocations, and is already ready to jump into second place.
Everything starts with faith, because any business is first an investment. This is kilometers of painted canvas and zero public recognition and material reward. Writing consists of gigabytes of texts that are initially interesting to only a dozen people close to you. University – five years without special remuneration; courses and so on – investment of time and money.
The search will always be hindered. In my case, there was a lot of family pressure. You can't get away from this for a certain period of time – 10 years of school, 4 years of institute – financial and housing dependence on parents. Not always the family supports, but they do not have to. And how many noble impulses were killed by society! In Russia-every critic, every expert, everyone knows how to do it: “What do you have nothing to do?”, “Paint and throw away”, ” Invest money, and a rainy day will come!”. For searching (and finding!) internal strength is necessary for yourself, as well as adequate self-esteem, the ability to enjoy the processes, not to give up when failures occur.
If you read the stories of great composers, they are solid “the first opera failed, was thrown and booed”. At first, the Impressionists were so criticized in the press that the comments in our social networks are the babble of a kind teacher.
Let's not take it so high, not all geniuses, of course. Just live and try – most of the processes in life are reversible! Correlate risks with reality, evaluate investments, if necessary. The reward for this is a sense of fullness of life, nothing more.
Mistakes and failures, more mistakes and more failures, plus experience, plus the rationality that came from the previous points, helped me find my purpose. After going through several areas of activity that “did not go”, I began to note what exactly I was not satisfied with. Then I realized that I was basically not capable of working in a hierarchical structure for a long time. After making a list of everything that doesn't suit me, adding my own talents and interests to it, I started looking for activities that would fit into the established “framework”. And I found it. Win.
Advice on finding yourself. You will need a pen, a piece of paper, and one hour when no one will distract you. Write it out:
Your strengths and weaknesses. Maybe you can easily and quickly memorize new information, or you can work quickly, or you get along well with children – write everything that you remember about yourself. This will help you understand which professions you can best implement yourself in. Conversely, if you don't know how to quickly find a common language with people, for example, this knowledge will help you immediately cross out professions in which you need to communicate with people on a daily basis.
Your fundamental preferences. Suppose you hate the classic form of clothing, such as trousers and ties. We cross out all work from the white-collar field. Etc.
Your reasonable work requirements (work schedules that suit you, minimum acceptable salary level, working conditions, team composition requirements, place of work, etc.). It is important to be realistic here. It is clear that many people want to do nothing and get paid for it.
If you have a friend who doesn't hesitate to tell the truth to your face, be sure to ask them to write down what you are better at than others, and what you are clearly not good at.
Anything that interests you personally. Most likely, this list will coincide with the list of your strengths, because people like to do what they can do. The main thing is to get rid of templates. If you like task planning, don't think, “no, I won't write this here, because there's nowhere else to apply it.”
Now that you have a detailed list of your characteristics, you can take it to a psychiatrist. A joke:) Start thinking and writing out all the options for activities that fit your needs and capabilities. When you find a profession that uses your strengths and weaknesses, you will be able to develop perfectly and really get a lot of fun and good money from what you do. This luxury is currently available to very few people.
The most common mistake is to go to work where you don't want to, because they pay well there. Don't do that. You'll last a maximum of a year or two, then send it all up your ass and spend another six months treating your nerves.
First of all, you should decide what you mean by “purpose”. If you're talking about some great mission that you were born to do, then the Dragonborn also didn't know he was a Dragonborn until he met the dragon. If your mission is a way to bring some benefit to the world, you need to decide what you think is useful, can do, or can learn to do. Determine the direction and forward. Well, in order to find something that you like and succeed in doing, you actually need to do at least something. Try yourself in different areas, look for something interesting for yourself, in this spirit.
what abilities and natural inclinations do I have? to what extent can I develop them?
what are the characteristics of my character and what is my personality? for example, am I sociable, ready to make quick decisions, what level of stress tolerance, and so on
what are the capabilities of the development environment I'm in? where in general can I study? Can I do what I want-can I do in this city? what can the current state of society offer me? For example, I won't become a pilot in Moscow
what professions are in demand? what will be bought on the professions market in the near future?
and here we come to a narrow range of professions that we need to “taste”, try ourselves to feel what is suitable and what is not. how to try-internships, lectures, communication with bright personalities, trips… whatever you want. and do not be afraid to make a mistake, the main thing is to honestly answer yourself every time, whether what I did is suitable
“To be or not to be? That's the question! ” – very few people remember what Hamlet says next in his monologue. But this phrase” to be or not to be ” determines our future life. To be kind or better not to be. Be truthful, which doesn't always equal being kind, or it's better to lie and say something comforting. To say something comforting, but, after all, all the same, someone not so kind will tell the whole truth, etc., etc. You can say. that the main thing is to be human. But even human qualities are being overestimated and underestimated at a catastrophic rate, and they are being adjusted to the rules of life of those people. who rules the world at this stage?In such controversial moments, the words from the Nautilus Pompilius song “Tutankhamun” always help me: “If you drink with thieves, fear for your wallet. If you're walking on a muddy road,you can't help but get your feet dirty. If you pull out your hair, you won't put it back in. And your head is always responsible for where your ass goes.”
Reasoning about purpose stems from fear and self-doubt. As soon as they arise in your head, you just need to stop and do what you decided. There are no purposes, their people invented themselves just to somehow protect themselves from their fears for the future. Every choice for them is a choice forever.
On the site ezopro.ru there is an article ” Talent. This is mine! Or not mine?” Read it, it might help 🙂
To be able and experience the joy of activity, these are still different things.
And the purpose is a very complex concept. Simplistically, it is considered that your destiny is to do what you know best. But this theory comes into conflict with the esoteric picture of the world, which considers the purpose of a person as passing the most difficult lesson that the soul has chosen when it comes to this world.
Systemic (otherwise also called karmic) psychology treats purpose as a continuation of one of the generic lines. If your ancestors were, for example, merchants, but the Soviet government took away their honestly acquired wealth, then you have a direct path to trade and you must do it in such a way that you not only do not fall anywhere, but also return the family to its former resources and glory.
Some particularly advanced spiritual schools associate purpose with origin (supposedly there are higher races among us and not all of us are from Earth, some are from Sirius, for example). In their opinion, a person is born and after a while realizes himself as an alien from another world, and at the same time his destiny. For example, increase the spiritual vibrations of the earth. Here you are laughing, but do you know how many people now live by it?: -)
Religions do not fit the task at all technically. Man's destiny is to love God and glorify him on earth by his actions.
And yet, if you look closely at the people around you, you will notice that many of them have radically changed both their activities and themselves over the course of their lives, respectively, their purpose has also changed.
As you can see, everything is not easy with the destination, but how to understand it? If you are young, then try as many different things as possible and what you want to delve into, get to the bottom of, what you don't get tired of – perhaps this is your destination for the next few years.
If you have already passed the thirty-year mark, start to really study yourself, the history of your family, and your psychology. Perhaps this will open up new facets of development for you. You will do the same in principle, but not like this.
If you are over forty, then congratulations, you have entered the age of true self-determination! Now it's time to get spiritual knowledge, study ancient mantic systems, unusual languages, unwritten history, and much more that was not fully understood before, and did not pull. At this age, people often come to real spiritual revelations, a complete change in life, emigration, a change in status and social roles is possible. This is a completely different reading of the concept of purpose, when you start thinking about what you can do for people and leave behind.
If we are talking about a profession, the question is not very relevant, since the trend of recent decades is that people change their specialty several times in their lives. And I think it's very cool. While there are no children, mortgages and other obligations, it's time to try and see what's interesting. Not even what turns out, but what is interesting. Because sometimes doing something that comes easily isn't the best option.
If we are talking about more global things (who am I?) – I think you should relax a little and understand that priorities can change. And you can also be “someone” in several guises at once: for example, being a startup and a volunteer, a dad and a programmer, a Christian and a biker.
Advice on how to decide is impossible to give. But on the other hand, you can give some tips on how to determine exactly what you don't need.
Think of life as a lottery where you can win or lose. That is, for example, I took up a case, and it may or may not be “yours”. And that's how you play lotto until you meet your goal. And some win right away, as if they are lucky.
This illusion is very popular because it keeps a person from feeling uncertain and unclear. In fact, the choice is always correct, for one simple reason-it is yours. And no one else's. The question is not whether it is correct or not, but whether you are ready to take responsibility for this choice. People who divide everything into right and wrong simply take responsibility for their own lives when they fail. Despite the fact that it is precisely these failures that are wrong, it mainly helps to develop.
Listen to simple recipes for happiness, universal laws of life and go to “personal growth trainings”. The brilliant minds that people remember and honor for centuries have never been able to express any universal laws anywhere. They expressed very little, even such great ones. And then someone made money, came and wrote a book on how to be happy. Here are 5 rules, do, apply, and everything in life will get better. Yeah, sure, it'll get better.
There is a law here – the more extensive and simple the rule, and the less relevant it is to a particular situation, the more likely it is to be a naive profanity.
See life as a project. The project must perform tasks efficiently (hello to the so-called life hackers), there must be a certain structure and there must be certain qualities and attributes.
It's great to schedule your life by the hour, measure how many hours you sleep, and measure your heartbeat using the new app on your iPhone, as well as set goals and be sure that they are important to you. Then there is not much left to analyze, but only to do. Motivate yourself and do, not dream. It's all very well. So you can become a very effective tool, but unfortunately you will have to abandon your personality and cut off the inner, sensual sphere from yourself. Society will certainly approve of such a metamorphosis.
This is how it looks in a very simplified form. A more sophisticated version can be found in the books of Rollo May, Fromm, Rogers, Bujenthal, and Seligman. In a very heavy, but rich form, you can try on the tooth of Heidegger, Kierkegaard, Mamardashvili. Many of them, unfortunately, did not earn much money and did not come up with recipes for happiness. But they came up with a lot of other things related to such an infinitely complex phenomenon as a person.
Most people in their youth are tormented by such questions. We must try. There is never any result and understanding without practice. Choose several options that you like, try yourself in different ones.
I found my purpose – and I really want to believe that I will stay on this path in life from now on – simply. In short, it's a case in point. In more detail: a drum kit was found in the basement of my house (terribly broken, by the way, and also incomplete), and I did not immediately begin to learn to play it. Over time, I realized that I could not imagine my life without music, and I began to invest more and more effort, time and money in developing my skills, but I do not regret anything – using a hackneyed metaphor, I will say that music has made me more alive than ever: this is creativity, this is a passion, a need for development, this is an activity that brings pleasure, but sometimes a headache.
So that's what this whole cart is all about. If I hadn't made up my mind from the very beginning (and I was sure I didn't have a sense of rhythm or hearing, which I was happily mistaken about), I probably would have ended up hanging around in this world. Yes, I had a lucky chance, but I, and this is important, was able and wanted to take advantage of it. So my message is: don't be afraid to grab your lucky ticket, even if it doesn't turn out to be a fucking lucky one. A person who always says to himself “this is not mine”, so this is the most “own” and will never find it. Trite, of course, but it is sometimes important to voice and put into words.
It seems to me that the vast majority of people at the age of 17 do not know what to do in life. Someone does not know this at 30, someone at 50. Don't despair. Tip: Don't stay out of work while studying at UNI or college. Be sure to work, try yourself in different roles. Gain experience. This will allow you to more or less understand your inclinations and determine exactly what you do not want to do.
I've already written it a hundred times. Write on a piece of paper what you definitely don't want to do and go from the opposite. //what is the limit of one hundred and forty characters., W
Do what you want to do. Don't do anything you don't want to do. And be patient: it's naive to expect quick results in such global endeavors.
There is no” own ” business.
To begin with, you should divide the Case by goal:
To create something (it is clear that later it can bring profit)
In the first case, the case is selected based on:
Of the region
Ability to negotiate and manage
In the second case, the case is selected based on:
Of your interest
Therefore, decide why you want your business. Then evaluate your resources. Analyze the local market or find an interesting unsolved problem. But most importantly, if we talk about profit, carefully look around and look for those needs of people that no one meets. Or they are not satisfied enough. Evaluate them in terms of their ability to meet these needs. If you can, start, try. There will be mistakes, losses, expenses, and successes. You see, some initiative will shoot and become your business. You don't know where you'll find it, where you'll lose it.
OLGA, hello.
First, about the purpose: The purpose of all people is the same-working outKarma, forDevelopmentSoul, in order to get rid of it in the future and go out on your ownPersonality.
ToThis category does not include: children, improving the world, helping others, etc. Abstract and systematic tasks.
(To avoid wasting time on outraged comments, please specify: this is my knowledge and my orientation. You can stay with your opinion and justify it.)
“Finding yourself” is a dual question. For me, the word “self” implies something deep that does not manifest itself in everyday consciousness and it is difficult to get to this center. In society, this (“find yourself”) means something else – a person and its implementation. Further, I will write not from my own, but from the social attitude to this.
You can lose yourself only in the case of a strong orientation to external rules and personal ideals: what you need to be, who you need to be, how you need to behave, good and bad qualities, useful and bad habits.�
Focusing on external assessments and personality parameters, a person ceases to see himself as real. And first of all, it stops seeing its most important resource: the physical body. Arms, legs, head. This is followed by intelligence, interests, skills, knowledge, mentality, and experience. I do not know a person who does not have enough of these basic resources for a full and happy life. You just need to look at yourself again and see them.�
Very important: it is absolutely impossible to impose social assessments and comparisons on your basic resources. This destroys their foundation and robs a person of Strength.
Next, you need to re-consider your needs. Primary and strategic issues. The primary ones are the needs for maintaining physical existence: food, clothing, a roof over your head. Everything. there are no others. If the primary needs are chosen from the position of “like someone; like a successful person; to be recognized; to be admired; as expected” – this is the beginning of the end as a Reasonable being, this is a process of degradation.
Strategic-these are the needs for intellectual, cultural, professional, and creative development. As they develop, their primary needs also change. Exactly in this sequence.
This is the beginning of the process of returning “to yourself”. To the person you were born with. And only then does the path open up to who you want to become.
Having identified your primary and strategic needs, you need to apply your core resources to meet them now. And determine what needs to be developed and supplemented in yourself so that you can realize your strategic needs.�
Very important: When determining what needs to be developed or supplemented, do not categorically evaluate it from the positions: useful-harmful, positive-negative, successful-unsuccessful. This is all nonsense. Choose only what you really need right now and objectively increase your efficiency in moving through life. It doesn't matter how the people around you feel about it.
What do you need to know and accept?: When you begin to “return to yourself” and develop yourself, you will definitely face criticism from your social circle. Your friends and acquaintances will not allow you to change. especially in the best way for you. This is unequivocal. you should understand that if you really develop and “return to yourself”, at least 70% of your social circle will leave you.
This is enough time to start working on your issue.
Good luck
Each of us was a child, and each of us had a favorite game. The one that made you forget everything. When mom shouts from the kitchen: “Baby, it's time for lunch!”, and you do not hear her – so interesting is your game! You are sitting on a carpet in the center of the room, and there is nothing but this game – you give yourself up to it completely. Conditionally, this game is what you should do in life.
You can't find it, but you can create it. Develop the skill of what you are interested in, you will gradually develop in this, set a higher quality bar, then people will start ordering work from you, and so in a few years you will become a professional, and neophytes will consider that “a person has found his vocation”. This idea that you need to look for it is a delusion.
Search. Constantly. If you like something , try it, don't be afraid. A new experience is always an experience, often positive. It will add friends, connections, and skills. Perhaps you think about the time spent? Well, maybe it's better to spend 4 years in an unloved university? 30 years in an unloved job? Isn't that a waste of time? Try it and don't be afraid, zhishchn loves adventurers.
Ask yourself what you're interested in, what you like to do, what you're good at, and what you can do without getting annoyed. Find at least one activity that doesn't cause depression, melancholy, or annoyance.Figure out if you like working with people, or vice versa. Once you have decided, find out what professions are associated with this activity, what you can learn and get a profession.
It is not easy for everyone in this life to understand what role they are assigned and what they are capable of. In this case, of course, it is better not to give up what you started, try hard , the fruits of some business will definitely remind you of yourself, and what happens, as a rule, always motivates you to move on. In any case, do not get hung up and live as you live , it will all come with time, especially if you are still young.
This is one of the most difficult questions. But there is one simple method that can initially somehow get off the ground in studying this issue. We see a lot of people in our lives, and there are some that we admire. There are some that are interesting to us and somehow close in spirit. And if you analyze these reactions, you can outline some likely direction for yourself. For starters, at least.
You should not look for some higher purpose or mission. Just live, enjoy life, love and get to know the world, do what you like, and create conditions for yourself so that you don't have to do what you don't like.�
There is an incredible book on this subject. Viktor Frankl “Man in search of Meaning”. A scientist-psychotherapist who went through Auschwitz and managed to take out the most valuable life experience from there. From the conditions where a person is deprived of absolutely everything, and the only remaining freedom is the choice of his reaction to external circumstances. The first half of the book describes the life of the concentration camp and the experiences of the people there. And the second is an analysis of all this from the point of view of psychology.
A child with a disability can be perceived as a punishment or a tragedy, or it can be considered a fate-forming element and a reason to change something in this world, find resources in yourself and show how to become happy, despite a lifelong diagnosis. Now, after 4 years of successful rehabilitation, I understand that it was not for nothing that so much moral effort and material resources were spent. And recently I was asked if I would like to share my experience and help other parents, give them hope?
So I finally understood what my purpose is, my mission in this life. I would like to believe that the project that my like-minded friends and I are preparing will really open up new opportunities for children with special needs and their families.
And here, in fact, is the answer to the question: do not look for your destination, when the time comes, it will find you by itself.
In my opinion, the best way to determine your purpose is to do what your loved ones want you to do. After all, the purpose of it is to make your loved ones happy and, as far as possible, distant ones too.�
Parents, if they are good parents, know you very well and can tell you what is best for you. Close friends can also be good advisors in this regard.�
There is no point in focusing on fashion, public opinion, or economic needs if your future occupation will not please your loved ones.
There is another way – Vedic astrology (jyotish). Just try it out and decide for yourself whether it suits you or not. But the first method works 100%
There are many search paths, but the easiest and fastest one is the following:
I was helped to determine exactly one way, Buddhist, or something) Answer the question: What would you do if you had infinite money? For example, I would have fun and travel, my main hobby would be tuning the best cars and racing them, that is, I just need to get a technical education, work with the same cars, other entertainment in my spare time, with experience in 10-20 years I will be able to develop my work in any direction up to business, and almost during my studies everything coincides with my
Of course, there are career guidance tests, but they can show the industry, but not the specialty.�
The simplest and most difficult way at the same time, observe yourself, how and in what way you act in business. Not What you do, but How. This will show your instrumental character function, the way you solve your problems and challenges in life. You can realize how to turn it into a profession.
Go from the opposite: identify what you don't like. Do you like the idea of living in the country? Do you like face tattoos? Do you like Asian cuisine? Do you like the color brown? (I am by no means suggesting that the answer to all these questions is “no”) This exercise will help you at least discard some of the ideas and things that you definitely don't want to strive for. Perhaps, in the process, you will come up with images that will cause you a uniquely positive response. Remember these images. Go back to them from time to time, watch their dynamics.�
Most likely, there are a lot of things that you like, but you just can't remember them right now.
Do not be afraid to try different activities, be curious, even if it seems that it is not up to you. Sooner or later, you will stop at something of your own. After all, it can not be uninteresting if you choose your own occupation. The main thing is not to sit still waiting for an epiphany, but to do something, explore the world around you.
I will say this, it is not you who find the purpose, but it is you))
Wherever you are and whatever you do, your destination will still be a surprise to you.�
To still speed up this process of finding it, I can only advise you to try everything, everything, everything!!! From drawing to training elephants.�
Good luck!)))
Perhaps it is worth giving in to impulses a little more selflessly, not “half a bump”, not just with enthusiasm, but with an understanding of the “depths of the issue”.
The more and more fully you try it out, the more obvious it should become to what exactly there is both a craving and a talent)
It was all very simple. Studying at a special school and knowing English from childhood, I had to go straight to INYAZ, as the institute was then called. Maurice Toreza. More precisely, as we joked as a child in the first grade, we all dreamed of being diplomats, by the fifth we understood that only a few would enter MGIMO. When my parents were a restorer and an engineer, I didn't have a career beyond translation and didn't enjoy it. But the disease also destroyed these dreams, and after spending half of the ninth and tenth grade in hospitals, it was impossible to think about any further education. To be even more precise . then the doctors were confused with the diagnoses and my parents took me to be baptized in the church, where my mother worked at that time at an unscheduled time. �And although I helped her earlier and rather at the official site of the Church of the Intercession in Fili, I realized that the monuments are mine. There was something native and fascinating about them. Having gone on the mend after the baptism, I made the final decision to follow in my mother's footsteps, and I didn't have the strength for anything else. She has worked for more than 30 years. I don't regret it. In this case, it seems that everything is really the will of God. I still love monuments. You need to love what you do and then it will delight you in life.
It is not difficult to understand what you like to do (people above suggested good advice with writing out strengths, etc.), it is always difficult to choose one of several things, and then resist running to a related activity. And the constant question in my head is, what if I did this instead of this, what would change in my life? Maybe I've become more successful and so on. It seems to me that the main thing in the purpose is not the correctness of the path itself, but its implementation. How do we start throwing? When difficulties come and we don't see any results from our current activities. The fact is that if you wait a little longer, the results will be there, but we are always rushing around and do not understand that the task for us was to hold on, and not change course. Purpose is a series of micro-goals that we achieve in one field of our choice. If we successfully achieve them in our entire life, we fulfill our purpose, since its task is to train our soul, will and character.
I'm still not sure if the search was deliberate. It's just that after-school drawing classes were added to a number of hobbies and then won the tender in college. And since the situation in the family taught me to finish things at a very young age, I decided not to give up this pleasant business, where you can think about your own and about everything. There is a university behind the college, and another one in parallel. Then a series of works, where, thanks to the managers, they made it clear what is good and what is bad.
Advice from these letters is unlikely to work, but my situation looks like this : I do what I like. First of all, the responsibility, interest, accessibility and development of the topic of art and design did not allow me to get out of the vague stream of events, where I ended up.
“The most common mistake is to go to work where you don't want to, because they pay well there. Don't do that. You will last a maximum of a year or two, then you will send it all up your ass and treat your nerves for another six months. ” – from the previous comment, it was unrealistic to smile about the treatment.
I don't believe that every person has a certain great purpose in life, there is something of megalomania in this. There are several hundred geniuses of the level of Leonardo da Vinci and Zuckerberg that the world has learned about. To do what we want and enjoy, to be useful to the world around us, or at least not to harm – this is what we are looking for. At different stages of life, there may be different purposes: while a woman with a small child-her purpose is to be a mother, the children grow up – she goes into politics. One woman, a resident of Tasmania, eight children, music education, worked all her life as a financier. When the children grew up, she gave up her career as a financier, spent three years copying works by old masters in a shed in the garden – now she is a world-famous pastelist, the highest level of artistic works, recognizable style.
I can't say that all my goals have been found so far. As a child, I enjoyed drawing, math, and foreign languages. Those activities that put you, I'm not afraid of the word, in a trance. While solving a problem or reading a text in French, I fell out of the world around me and came back up again, experiencing a “sense of renewal”.
Writing came later – in the tenth grade I won the regional Olympiad in literature. Public recognition tends to push you towards vocations. A few years ago, I started writing methodological articles on the study of foreign languages-as a result of ten years of work in this field. There was a need to systematize observations, share and fight the Russian plague – ignorance of foreign languages after 10 years of study.
It is also important to understand what you absolutely do not want – I rejected the role of a housewife and an office worker. The choice narrowed dramatically. Hence, the need to study foreign languages was organically met by the market demand for English teachers. At first, I didn't really like it, but because of the hopelessness in life at that time, I had to continue and adapt. Adaptation has not only taken us beyond stress. Gradually, pleasure came, creativity and development began.
Then there were two years of working in television. A screenwriter and correspondent. I was asked to write a test script, sat down and wrote it, and was offered a full-time job. Writing scripts turned out to be the most enjoyable activity, but I was a temporary correspondent for a month and a half. Screenwriting has been postponed for now, and I'm saving it for retirement.
Don't be afraid to try – this is the most important thing. “Why not?” – correct question for suggestions that arise internally and externally. The result of any activity at first, to put it mildly, is not up to par. But this is not a reason to listen to the replicas: “You, my child, should not open your mouth, you should sing no further than the shower.” However, to bother people with their opuses and ballads is unnecessary.
I continued to draw in adulthood, everything turned out to be much more serious than handwriting on weekends. Now painting is already one of the top three main vocations, and is already ready to jump into second place.
Everything starts with faith, because any business is first an investment. This is kilometers of painted canvas and zero public recognition and material reward. Writing consists of gigabytes of texts that are initially interesting to only a dozen people close to you. University – five years without special remuneration; courses and so on – investment of time and money.
The search will always be hindered. In my case, there was a lot of family pressure. You can't get away from this for a certain period of time – 10 years of school, 4 years of institute – financial and housing dependence on parents. Not always the family supports, but they do not have to. And how many noble impulses were killed by society! In Russia-every critic, every expert, everyone knows how to do it: “What do you have nothing to do?”, “Paint and throw away”, ” Invest money, and a rainy day will come!”. For searching (and finding!) internal strength is necessary for yourself, as well as adequate self-esteem, the ability to enjoy the processes, not to give up when failures occur.
If you read the stories of great composers, they are solid “the first opera failed, was thrown and booed”. At first, the Impressionists were so criticized in the press that the comments in our social networks are the babble of a kind teacher.
Let's not take it so high, not all geniuses, of course. Just live and try – most of the processes in life are reversible! Correlate risks with reality, evaluate investments, if necessary. The reward for this is a sense of fullness of life, nothing more.
Mistakes and failures, more mistakes and more failures, plus experience, plus the rationality that came from the previous points, helped me find my purpose. After going through several areas of activity that “did not go”, I began to note what exactly I was not satisfied with. Then I realized that I was basically not capable of working in a hierarchical structure for a long time. After making a list of everything that doesn't suit me, adding my own talents and interests to it, I started looking for activities that would fit into the established “framework”. And I found it. Win.
Advice on finding yourself. You will need a pen, a piece of paper, and one hour when no one will distract you. Write it out:
Your strengths and weaknesses. Maybe you can easily and quickly memorize new information, or you can work quickly, or you get along well with children – write everything that you remember about yourself. This will help you understand which professions you can best implement yourself in. Conversely, if you don't know how to quickly find a common language with people, for example, this knowledge will help you immediately cross out professions in which you need to communicate with people on a daily basis.
Your fundamental preferences. Suppose you hate the classic form of clothing, such as trousers and ties. We cross out all work from the white-collar field. Etc.
Your reasonable work requirements (work schedules that suit you, minimum acceptable salary level, working conditions, team composition requirements, place of work, etc.). It is important to be realistic here. It is clear that many people want to do nothing and get paid for it.
If you have a friend who doesn't hesitate to tell the truth to your face, be sure to ask them to write down what you are better at than others, and what you are clearly not good at.
Anything that interests you personally. Most likely, this list will coincide with the list of your strengths, because people like to do what they can do. The main thing is to get rid of templates. If you like task planning, don't think, “no, I won't write this here, because there's nowhere else to apply it.”
Now that you have a detailed list of your characteristics, you can take it to a psychiatrist. A joke:) Start thinking and writing out all the options for activities that fit your needs and capabilities. When you find a profession that uses your strengths and weaknesses, you will be able to develop perfectly and really get a lot of fun and good money from what you do. This luxury is currently available to very few people.
The most common mistake is to go to work where you don't want to, because they pay well there. Don't do that. You'll last a maximum of a year or two, then send it all up your ass and spend another six months treating your nerves.
First of all, you should decide what you mean by “purpose”.
If you're talking about some great mission that you were born to do, then the Dragonborn also didn't know he was a Dragonborn until he met the dragon.
If your mission is a way to bring some benefit to the world, you need to decide what you think is useful, can do, or can learn to do. Determine the direction and forward.
Well, in order to find something that you like and succeed in doing, you actually need to do at least something. Try yourself in different areas, look for something interesting for yourself, in this spirit.
Go through the selection funnel:�
what is interesting to me, what do I want to do?�
what abilities and natural inclinations do I have? to what extent can I develop them?
what are the characteristics of my character and what is my personality? for example, am I sociable, ready to make quick decisions, what level of stress tolerance, and so on
what are the capabilities of the development environment I'm in? where in general can I study? Can I do what I want-can I do in this city? what can the current state of society offer me? For example, I won't become a pilot in Moscow
what professions are in demand? what will be bought on the professions market in the near future?
and here we come to a narrow range of professions that we need to “taste”, try ourselves to feel what is suitable and what is not. how to try-internships, lectures, communication with bright personalities, trips… whatever you want. and do not be afraid to make a mistake, the main thing is to honestly answer yourself every time, whether what I did is suitable
“To be or not to be? That's the question! ” – very few people remember what Hamlet says next in his monologue. But this phrase” to be or not to be ” determines our future life. To be kind or better not to be. Be truthful, which doesn't always equal being kind, or it's better to lie and say something comforting. To say something comforting, but, after all, all the same, someone not so kind will tell the whole truth, etc., etc. You can say. that the main thing is to be human. But even human qualities are being overestimated and underestimated at a catastrophic rate, and they are being adjusted to the rules of life of those people. who rules the world at this stage?In such controversial moments, the words from the Nautilus Pompilius song “Tutankhamun” always help me: “If you drink with thieves, fear for your wallet. If you're walking on a muddy road,you can't help but get your feet dirty. If you pull out your hair, you won't put it back in. And your head is always responsible for where your ass goes.”
Reasoning about purpose stems from fear and self-doubt. As soon as they arise in your head, you just need to stop and do what you decided. There are no purposes, their people invented themselves just to somehow protect themselves from their fears for the future. Every choice for them is a choice forever.
On the site ezopro.ru there is an article ” Talent. This is mine! Or not mine?” Read it, it might help 🙂
To be able and experience the joy of activity, these are still different things.
And the purpose is a very complex concept. Simplistically, it is considered that your destiny is to do what you know best. But this theory comes into conflict with the esoteric picture of the world, which considers the purpose of a person as passing the most difficult lesson that the soul has chosen when it comes to this world.
Systemic (otherwise also called karmic) psychology treats purpose as a continuation of one of the generic lines. If your ancestors were, for example, merchants, but the Soviet government took away their honestly acquired wealth, then you have a direct path to trade and you must do it in such a way that you not only do not fall anywhere, but also return the family to its former resources and glory.
Some particularly advanced spiritual schools associate purpose with origin (supposedly there are higher races among us and not all of us are from Earth, some are from Sirius, for example). In their opinion, a person is born and after a while realizes himself as an alien from another world, and at the same time his destiny. For example, increase the spiritual vibrations of the earth. Here you are laughing, but do you know how many people now live by it?: -)
Religions do not fit the task at all technically. Man's destiny is to love God and glorify him on earth by his actions.
And yet, if you look closely at the people around you, you will notice that many of them have radically changed both their activities and themselves over the course of their lives, respectively, their purpose has also changed.
As you can see, everything is not easy with the destination, but how to understand it? If you are young, then try as many different things as possible and what you want to delve into, get to the bottom of, what you don't get tired of – perhaps this is your destination for the next few years.
If you have already passed the thirty-year mark, start to really study yourself, the history of your family, and your psychology. Perhaps this will open up new facets of development for you. You will do the same in principle, but not like this.
If you are over forty, then congratulations, you have entered the age of true self-determination! Now it's time to get spiritual knowledge, study ancient mantic systems, unusual languages, unwritten history, and much more that was not fully understood before, and did not pull. At this age, people often come to real spiritual revelations, a complete change in life, emigration, a change in status and social roles is possible. This is a completely different reading of the concept of purpose, when you start thinking about what you can do for people and leave behind.
If we are talking about a profession, the question is not very relevant, since the trend of recent decades is that people change their specialty several times in their lives. And I think it's very cool. While there are no children, mortgages and other obligations, it's time to try and see what's interesting. Not even what turns out, but what is interesting. Because sometimes doing something that comes easily isn't the best option.
If we are talking about more global things (who am I?) – I think you should relax a little and understand that priorities can change. And you can also be “someone” in several guises at once: for example, being a startup and a volunteer, a dad and a programmer, a Christian and a biker.
Advice on how to decide is impossible to give. But on the other hand, you can give some tips on how to determine exactly what you don't need.
This illusion is very popular because it keeps a person from feeling uncertain and unclear. In fact, the choice is always correct, for one simple reason-it is yours. And no one else's. The question is not whether it is correct or not, but whether you are ready to take responsibility for this choice. People who divide everything into right and wrong simply take responsibility for their own lives when they fail. Despite the fact that it is precisely these failures that are wrong, it mainly helps to develop.
There is a law here – the more extensive and simple the rule, and the less relevant it is to a particular situation, the more likely it is to be a naive profanity.
It's great to schedule your life by the hour, measure how many hours you sleep, and measure your heartbeat using the new app on your iPhone, as well as set goals and be sure that they are important to you. Then there is not much left to analyze, but only to do. Motivate yourself and do, not dream. It's all very well. So you can become a very effective tool, but unfortunately you will have to abandon your personality and cut off the inner, sensual sphere from yourself. Society will certainly approve of such a metamorphosis.
This is how it looks in a very simplified form. A more sophisticated version can be found in the books of Rollo May, Fromm, Rogers, Bujenthal, and Seligman. In a very heavy, but rich form, you can try on the tooth of Heidegger, Kierkegaard, Mamardashvili. Many of them, unfortunately, did not earn much money and did not come up with recipes for happiness. But they came up with a lot of other things related to such an infinitely complex phenomenon as a person.