In my opinion, before “fighting” with stress, negative energy inside, it is important to find the cause of this condition.
Take an honest look at your life and identify the source – what exactly is causing you constant tension, fatigue, and”hassle”? It can be events, people, unloved work, constant conflicts in the family, etc.
How does this affect your life? What do you do to “adjust” to what finally exhausted you?
Whether you treat yourself to sweets after work, or smoke a cigarette, drink a glass of wine – this is your way to cope with the stress in life.
If you openly see how you usually deal with your stress, this is already a big step.
Here it is important not to start criticizing yourself, as this will only make the situation worse.
At this stage, working with a psychologist can help, as it will allow you to find not only the reason for the accumulation of negativity, but also how it happens that the tension that you meet daily is not processed by the psyche and finds its eco-friendly way out, but lingers inside you.
The attitudes “you can't get angry”, “first of all, you need to save the relationship”, “it's better not to go into conflict again” play a role here. Also, in cases of chronic fatigue, a conflict between “need” and “want” can be expressed, when a person loads himself with what he should do, denying his feelings.
That is, somewhere you have learned that you need to endure when it is bad, to put up with what is. This method can lead to chronic stress and even psychosomatic diseases.
Therefore, the main direction in getting away from negativity is to:
1) Say goodbye or change the relationship with the source of stress. You may have to change your job and sacrifice a good standard of living, giving up many projects. Actions can be different. But this is the only way you can change your life. And here a lot depends on your desires, values and willingness to follow them.
2) Replace the method that you currently use to get rid of fatigue and stress with a healthier one. The main thing is that you like it. Let you start practicing yoga 1 time in 2 weeks with interest and pleasure, than it will be a daily “training” of yourself.
3) Learn self-regulation – recognizing emotions, needs, and thoughts and expressing them appropriately with others. Both individual and group work with a psychologist works effectively with this.
Take care of yourself, find some pleasant business, hobby, improve yourself, learn foreign languages, go hiking, limit your social circle, leave only the closest and most pleasant people in your life, get a dog, get a tattoo, just live and enjoy what you have, keep it, and appreciate it
A very relevant question for many in our time. Let's go through each of the words you mentioned sequentially.
Stress is a condition caused by negative emotions. When a person tries to act in this state, he gets tired very quickly and gets angry. When he gets angry, he shows what you call negative energy. And the longer he shows it in himself, the more he gathers around him situations and circumstances that increase the state of stress.
So, this circle seems closed in the first place, oddly enough, precisely because you are trying to learn how to control emotions ))).
It's like relentlessly looking for ways to cover up and seal a light bulb in your car, which blinks to signal that the fuel level is running low. You are tired of it with its distracting red bright light, you are stressed by the thought that your car will soon get tired of driving. It makes you angry and annoyed…
And so you take a black electrical tape and seal the flashing indicator. Voila – the problem is not visible. “Why? Everyone does it!”
But, in doing so, you only swept the garbage under the carpet. You can't see it, but it's there, it's still there, and it's just getting bigger. And that only makes it sadder…
So maybe it's better to learn how to control the fuel level instead of trying to control the fuel level indicator.
What am I talking about?
And here's what it's about: if every morning you have to force yourself to wake up where you DON't want to go, so that you can do with those you DON't like, what you don't like to do, and on conditions that DON'T suit you… and so it goes from day to day, from month to month, from year to year for a lifetime…
It doesn't matter if it's good or bad, but it doesn't disappear anywhere – it accumulates and gradually weakens a person (hence chronic fatigue). And a person without energy is like a car without fuel. So the notification light flashes. To refuel blinks, and not to finally finish off the already” beaten by fate ” person.
But he wasn't beaten by fate, that's what it was. And by yourself, who daily chooses a lifestyle that de-energizes instead of filling you with energy to the edge…
It all depends on your desire, intentions and actions. If you really want to, you can fly into space. But seriously, you need to sit down and write on a piece of paper what is bothering you, and side by side possible reasons. Most often, people are concerned about so-called “sins”, most of which are the result of selfishness and ignorance. You need to engage in self-education, that is, first of all, you need to figure out what is right and good for you personally, and from the point of view of morality, secondly, find out what exactly you are doing wrong, and thirdly, make an effort and replace the bad with the right. Specifically, to get rid of negative energy, you need to remove the sources of this energy, this can be both your own impatience, irritability, unnatural behavior, and the negative impact of your close environment. Next, you need to replace negative sources with positive ones, but first change your attitude to negative sources, do not take to heart anything that usually pisses you off, and on the contrary, take as a rule – EVERYTHING THAT is UNNATURAL is UNACCEPTABLE, then look for what thoughts, deeds, actions give you strength and introduce it into ordinary everyday life. In general terms, so. Here's an example: A certain person who is weak in spirit and will is addicted to the so-called manual labor, he decided that this is all normal,� that everyone does this, that it gives them an incentive, gives them satisfaction, and so on. But everything turned out quite the opposite, this bad habit, by the way, one of the” mortal ” sins, i.e. those sins that lead to spiritual death, distorted his whole life, sucked out all his vital force, he turned into a weak, insignificant, weak-willed non-human with a perverted personal life. What did he do? Having understood the reason, he had one, and many people have a whole bunch of such reasons, he recognized that this is not correct, found out, by studying the relevant literature, what happens to the body during orgasm, what hormones are released, etc., found out what useful ways you can get the same adrenaline, dopamine, for example, physical education, active sports, replaced a bad source with a healthy one. Now he is happy, confident, sociable, a person without any complexes and as positive as possible in any situation.
It all depends on your desire, intentions and actions. If you really want to, you can fly into space. But seriously, you need to sit down and write on a piece of paper what is bothering you, and side by side possible reasons. Most often, people are concerned about so-called “sins”, most of which are the result of selfishness and ignorance. You need to engage in self-education, that is, first of all, you need to figure out what is right and good for you personally, and from the point of view of morality, secondly, find out what exactly you are doing wrong, and thirdly, make an effort and replace the bad with the right. Specifically, to get rid of negative energy, you need to remove the sources of this energy, this can be both your own impatience, irritability, unnatural behavior, and the negative impact of your close environment. Next, you need to replace negative sources with positive ones, but first change your attitude to negative sources, do not take to heart anything that usually pisses you off, and on the contrary, take as a rule – EVERYTHING THAT is UNNATURAL is UNACCEPTABLE, then look for what thoughts, deeds, actions give you strength and introduce it into ordinary everyday life. In general terms, so. Here's an example: A certain person who is weak in spirit and will is addicted to the so-called manual labor, he decided that this is all normal,� that everyone does this, that it gives them an incentive, gives them satisfaction, and so on. But everything turned out quite the opposite, this bad habit, by the way, one of the” mortal ” sins, i.e. those sins that lead to spiritual death, distorted his whole life, sucked out all his vital force, he turned into a weak, insignificant, weak-willed non-human with a perverted personal life. What did he do? Having understood the reason, he had one, and many people have a whole bunch of such reasons, he recognized that this is not correct, found out, by studying the relevant literature, what happens to the body during orgasm, what hormones are released, etc., found out what useful ways you can get the same adrenaline, dopamine, for example, physical education, active sports, replaced a bad source with a healthy one. Now he is happy, confident, sociable, a person without any complexes and as positive as possible in any situation.
Try mindfulness meditation. My experience and numerous studies show that this is exactly what you need. You can start with short lectures by Yonge Mingyur Rinpoche. You can download Headspace and Insight Timer. You can buy a book on meditation.
Based on personal experience, I can say that anger is not taken out of thin air. Just as laziness may not be laziness at all, no matter how strange and paradoxical it may sound.�
Oddly enough, it's important to think-to force yourself to stop, sit down, and reflect. Think about what is happening in your life, whether you get satisfaction from what occupies a significant part of your daily routine, what bad habits could be abandoned, because-banal-bad habits often cause irritability and a suspended inner state.�
Frames in the head – in particular, this is a social construct. No doubt it's easy to drop a fancy word and go home. But, frankly, most often what stops us-in feeling like a person, in some bold, even wild endeavors-all this comes from society-family, everyday environment, even friends. Blaming society is not an option, it would be too easy. But you need to clearly define what kind of restriction”familiar and generally accepted” imposes on you, and what comes from your own feeling.�
Communicating with people is important and necessary. In communication, one learns the experience of other” – people who come from radically different spheres, with a sharply different mindset and their own worldview” – people. Communication opens up such personalities, such facets of spheres that you did not even think to go to, just because you were afraid or simply did not know. So this is paramount. Communicate, overcome yourself in embarrassment and anxiety for not being able to establish contact. Every business requires practice, and communication is no exception.
So thinking and communicating is the foundation of every endeavor.
In my opinion, before “fighting” with stress, negative energy inside, it is important to find the cause of this condition.
Take an honest look at your life and identify the source – what exactly is causing you constant tension, fatigue, and”hassle”? It can be events, people, unloved work, constant conflicts in the family, etc.
How does this affect your life? What do you do to “adjust” to what finally exhausted you?
Whether you treat yourself to sweets after work, or smoke a cigarette, drink a glass of wine – this is your way to cope with the stress in life.
If you openly see how you usually deal with your stress, this is already a big step.
Here it is important not to start criticizing yourself, as this will only make the situation worse.
At this stage, working with a psychologist can help, as it will allow you to find not only the reason for the accumulation of negativity, but also how it happens that the tension that you meet daily is not processed by the psyche and finds its eco-friendly way out, but lingers inside you.
The attitudes “you can't get angry”, “first of all, you need to save the relationship”, “it's better not to go into conflict again” play a role here. Also, in cases of chronic fatigue, a conflict between “need” and “want” can be expressed, when a person loads himself with what he should do, denying his feelings.
That is, somewhere you have learned that you need to endure when it is bad, to put up with what is. This method can lead to chronic stress and even psychosomatic diseases.
Therefore, the main direction in getting away from negativity is to:
1) Say goodbye or change the relationship with the source of stress. You may have to change your job and sacrifice a good standard of living, giving up many projects. Actions can be different. But this is the only way you can change your life. And here a lot depends on your desires, values and willingness to follow them.
2) Replace the method that you currently use to get rid of fatigue and stress with a healthier one. The main thing is that you like it. Let you start practicing yoga 1 time in 2 weeks with interest and pleasure, than it will be a daily “training” of yourself.
3) Learn self-regulation – recognizing emotions, needs, and thoughts and expressing them appropriately with others. Both individual and group work with a psychologist works effectively with this.
Simple tips will help you get rid of negativity:
Take a salt water bath
Start meditating
A simple mantra or prayer
Positive attitude
Do to others what you would like to get yourself
Don't sit around doing nothing
Take care of yourself, find some pleasant business, hobby, improve yourself, learn foreign languages, go hiking, limit your social circle, leave only the closest and most pleasant people in your life, get a dog, get a tattoo, just live and enjoy what you have, keep it, and appreciate it
A very relevant question for many in our time. Let's go through each of the words you mentioned sequentially.
Stress is a condition caused by negative emotions. When a person tries to act in this state, he gets tired very quickly and gets angry. When he gets angry, he shows what you call negative energy. And the longer he shows it in himself, the more he gathers around him situations and circumstances that increase the state of stress.
So, this circle seems closed in the first place, oddly enough, precisely because you are trying to learn how to control emotions ))).
It's like relentlessly looking for ways to cover up and seal a light bulb in your car, which blinks to signal that the fuel level is running low. You are tired of it with its distracting red bright light, you are stressed by the thought that your car will soon get tired of driving. It makes you angry and annoyed…
And so you take a black electrical tape and seal the flashing indicator. Voila – the problem is not visible. “Why? Everyone does it!”
But, in doing so, you only swept the garbage under the carpet. You can't see it, but it's there, it's still there, and it's just getting bigger. And that only makes it sadder…
So maybe it's better to learn how to control the fuel level instead of trying to control the fuel level indicator.
What am I talking about?
And here's what it's about: if every morning you have to force yourself to wake up where you DON't want to go, so that you can do with those you DON't like, what you don't like to do, and on conditions that DON'T suit you… and so it goes from day to day, from month to month, from year to year for a lifetime…
It doesn't matter if it's good or bad, but it doesn't disappear anywhere – it accumulates and gradually weakens a person (hence chronic fatigue). And a person without energy is like a car without fuel. So the notification light flashes. To refuel blinks, and not to finally finish off the already” beaten by fate ” person.
But he wasn't beaten by fate, that's what it was. And by yourself, who daily chooses a lifestyle that de-energizes instead of filling you with energy to the edge…
© Artem Veda
It all depends on your desire, intentions and actions. If you really want to, you can fly into space. But seriously, you need to sit down and write on a piece of paper what is bothering you, and side by side possible reasons. Most often, people are concerned about so-called “sins”, most of which are the result of selfishness and ignorance. You need to engage in self-education, that is, first of all, you need to figure out what is right and good for you personally, and from the point of view of morality, secondly, find out what exactly you are doing wrong, and thirdly, make an effort and replace the bad with the right. Specifically, to get rid of negative energy, you need to remove the sources of this energy, this can be both your own impatience, irritability, unnatural behavior, and the negative impact of your close environment. Next, you need to replace negative sources with positive ones, but first change your attitude to negative sources, do not take to heart anything that usually pisses you off, and on the contrary, take as a rule – EVERYTHING THAT is UNNATURAL is UNACCEPTABLE, then look for what thoughts, deeds, actions give you strength and introduce it into ordinary everyday life. In general terms, so. Here's an example: A certain person who is weak in spirit and will is addicted to the so-called manual labor, he decided that this is all normal,� that everyone does this, that it gives them an incentive, gives them satisfaction, and so on. But everything turned out quite the opposite, this bad habit, by the way, one of the” mortal ” sins, i.e. those sins that lead to spiritual death, distorted his whole life, sucked out all his vital force, he turned into a weak, insignificant, weak-willed non-human with a perverted personal life. What did he do? Having understood the reason, he had one, and many people have a whole bunch of such reasons, he recognized that this is not correct, found out, by studying the relevant literature, what happens to the body during orgasm, what hormones are released, etc., found out what useful ways you can get the same adrenaline, dopamine, for example, physical education, active sports, replaced a bad source with a healthy one. Now he is happy, confident, sociable, a person without any complexes and as positive as possible in any situation.
It all depends on your desire, intentions and actions. If you really want to, you can fly into space. But seriously, you need to sit down and write on a piece of paper what is bothering you, and side by side possible reasons. Most often, people are concerned about so-called “sins”, most of which are the result of selfishness and ignorance. You need to engage in self-education, that is, first of all, you need to figure out what is right and good for you personally, and from the point of view of morality, secondly, find out what exactly you are doing wrong, and thirdly, make an effort and replace the bad with the right. Specifically, to get rid of negative energy, you need to remove the sources of this energy, this can be both your own impatience, irritability, unnatural behavior, and the negative impact of your close environment. Next, you need to replace negative sources with positive ones, but first change your attitude to negative sources, do not take to heart anything that usually pisses you off, and on the contrary, take as a rule – EVERYTHING THAT is UNNATURAL is UNACCEPTABLE, then look for what thoughts, deeds, actions give you strength and introduce it into ordinary everyday life. In general terms, so. Here's an example: A certain person who is weak in spirit and will is addicted to the so-called manual labor, he decided that this is all normal,� that everyone does this, that it gives them an incentive, gives them satisfaction, and so on. But everything turned out quite the opposite, this bad habit, by the way, one of the” mortal ” sins, i.e. those sins that lead to spiritual death, distorted his whole life, sucked out all his vital force, he turned into a weak, insignificant, weak-willed non-human with a perverted personal life. What did he do? Having understood the reason, he had one, and many people have a whole bunch of such reasons, he recognized that this is not correct, found out, by studying the relevant literature, what happens to the body during orgasm, what hormones are released, etc., found out what useful ways you can get the same adrenaline, dopamine, for example, physical education, active sports, replaced a bad source with a healthy one. Now he is happy, confident, sociable, a person without any complexes and as positive as possible in any situation.
Try mindfulness meditation. My experience and numerous studies show that this is exactly what you need. You can start with short lectures by Yonge Mingyur Rinpoche. You can download Headspace and Insight Timer. You can buy a book on meditation.
Good luck!
Based on personal experience, I can say that anger is not taken out of thin air. Just as laziness may not be laziness at all, no matter how strange and paradoxical it may sound.�
Oddly enough, it's important to think-to force yourself to stop, sit down, and reflect. Think about what is happening in your life, whether you get satisfaction from what occupies a significant part of your daily routine, what bad habits could be abandoned, because-banal-bad habits often cause irritability and a suspended inner state.�
Frames in the head – in particular, this is a social construct. No doubt it's easy to drop a fancy word and go home. But, frankly, most often what stops us-in feeling like a person, in some bold, even wild endeavors-all this comes from society-family, everyday environment, even friends. Blaming society is not an option, it would be too easy. But you need to clearly define what kind of restriction”familiar and generally accepted” imposes on you, and what comes from your own feeling.�
Communicating with people is important and necessary. In communication, one learns the experience of other” – people who come from radically different spheres, with a sharply different mindset and their own worldview” – people. Communication opens up such personalities, such facets of spheres that you did not even think to go to, just because you were afraid or simply did not know. So this is paramount. Communicate, overcome yourself in embarrassment and anxiety for not being able to establish contact. Every business requires practice, and communication is no exception.
So thinking and communicating is the foundation of every endeavor.