Easy. If you were initially sure that you were right, then just ignore it. Although it sounds simple, but in reality you often think: “oh, but maybe I'm wrong after all? Could this person be telling the truth?”. In this case, it usually helps me to quickly understand the person's qualifications in this matter. Will I listen to the opinion of a physical education teacher who is exclusively engaged in sports, that I spend a lot of time at the computer and allegedly waste my time? Of course not. After all, the teacher does not know that I walk 5-6 kilometers a day, which means that he does not see the full picture. Then his opinion is not objective – you should not listen to him. Another example: a friend said you were ” fat.” Immediately you should think about what is considered fat. If your weight is lower than the average(height/age/weight), and the fat deposits are standard places like the abdomen, thighs, buttocks, then perhaps you should regard the statement as a thoughtless insult, and not a real criticism or quibble, even if you yourself do not like your small belly. The main idea is that it is important to evaluate each opinion objectively, as if entering into a dialogue with the author of the opinion. Imagine that you are a felling teacher on the defense / test and require argumentation of the statement. If there is no argument, then the opinion is a dummy, just words. How to deal with the fact that you perceive empty words in hostility? You just need to think about whether you will remember this insult in a year, five years, ten, fifteen. If you don't remember clearly, then you shouldn't worry now. For example, I don't remember how or who insulted me a couple of years ago. With a critical opinion, everything is easier – understand that it is unfounded, put pressure on your own, but mentally. Don't engage in polemics unnecessarily. “Your job is complete bullshit and no one needs it” – so what? The statement is already emotional, and if it comes from an incompetent person, then it does not have any weight at all. Forget about it, think about the real criticism that was expressed to you and focus on it.
Easy. If you were initially sure that you were right, then just ignore it. Although it sounds simple, but in reality you often think: “oh, but maybe I'm wrong after all? Could this person be telling the truth?”. In this case, it usually helps me to quickly understand the person's qualifications in this matter. Will I listen to the opinion of a physical education teacher who is exclusively engaged in sports, that I spend a lot of time at the computer and allegedly waste my time? Of course not. After all, the teacher does not know that I walk 5-6 kilometers a day, which means that he does not see the full picture. Then his opinion is not objective – you should not listen to him.
Another example: a friend said you were ” fat.” Immediately you should think about what is considered fat. If your weight is lower than the average(height/age/weight), and the fat deposits are standard places like the abdomen, thighs, buttocks, then perhaps you should regard the statement as a thoughtless insult, and not a real criticism or quibble, even if you yourself do not like your small belly.
The main idea is that it is important to evaluate each opinion objectively, as if entering into a dialogue with the author of the opinion. Imagine that you are a felling teacher on the defense / test and require argumentation of the statement. If there is no argument, then the opinion is a dummy, just words. How to deal with the fact that you perceive empty words in hostility? You just need to think about whether you will remember this insult in a year, five years, ten, fifteen. If you don't remember clearly, then you shouldn't worry now. For example, I don't remember how or who insulted me a couple of years ago. With a critical opinion, everything is easier – understand that it is unfounded, put pressure on your own, but mentally. Don't engage in polemics unnecessarily. “Your job is complete bullshit and no one needs it” – so what? The statement is already emotional, and if it comes from an incompetent person, then it does not have any weight at all. Forget about it, think about the real criticism that was expressed to you and focus on it.