Categories
- Art (356)
- Other (3,632)
- Philosophy (2,814)
- Psychology (4,018)
- Society (1,010)
Recent Questions
- Why did everyone start to hate the Russians if the U.S. did the same thing in Afghanistan, Iraq?
- What needs to be corrected in the management of Russia first?
- Why did Blaise Pascal become a religious man at the end of his life?
- How do I know if a guy likes you?
- When they say "one generation", how many do they mean?
As already noted here, self – destruction can be a manifestation of some psychopathology. Not the pathology that requires hospitalization in a psychiatric hospital and treatment, but still is a deviation from the conditional norm.
For example, individuals with borderline personality disorder and other types of personality disorders are prone to self-destructive behavior. People who have a certain psychological trauma, certain views on life and their place in this life. There are quite a lot of reasons, as well as types of self-aggression.
The most appropriate (if you strive for this adequacy, of course) option for solving this problem is to contact a specialist engaged in psychotherapy. If self-destruction causes you negative emotions, then it will not be difficult for you to describe your problem. This can be a free consultation in one of the municipal centers of your city, or something like that.At the first stage, it is important to determine the problem, sort it out with a specialist, and create some kind of plan for the future.
If you work with a specially trained person – for weaklings, engage in introspection, for starters. What can be the cause of self-aggression? Do not accept one option, it is unlikely that you will be able to determine for yourself what is “guilty”. And it is very important – do not blame others for this. This is too convenient to find a reason-to blame another person for your suffering and put the blame for all your sins on someone else. Let it be a lot of possible reasons, though unlikely. Some situations, maybe in which you became a victim, or vice versa, an aggressor. How else would you do in such situations? Or maybe what would you do if you were the person who hurt you? Let there be many alternatives, both good and bad.
Increasing variability (increasing possible behavioral alternatives) is a direct way to reduce self-aggression, to more effective expression of emotions. Read about assertive behavior. The more harmonious you feel in society, the better you will be able to relate to yourself, and the less you will want to hurt your loved one.
In general, of course, it is better to discuss such things with a psychologist, so that the answer is specific for you, and not in the air. People are different.
It depends on what your self-destruction is. If this is physical self-destruction in the form of binge drinking, drug use, overeating or self-flagellation (in the style of the Da Vinci Code), you are on the right track, since you are wondering how to stop. There is only one way out-a psychiatrist, and preferably as soon as possible=) �
If you just mope, dig into yourself and like a blind kitten looking for a way out of the room, it is very important to accept the following: every person sometimes just needs to stop in the flow of life, look around, listen to yourself, your desires, understand whether the right path is chosen. Give yourself the weakness to “self-destruct” in a day, for example. There is nothing wrong with starting a new life (or continuing an old one) with “tomorrow”. We are not robots, we do not have a program to perform the same tasks day after day in a state of permanent and unconditional happiness.
If your melancholy lasts longer than normal (and everyone has their own), then you have already asked yourself all the questions, found all the answers, but you don't like them. Personally, I don't see any other way out than to color these answers in the colors you need. From gray to turquoise, for example =) Situations can be hopeless (at least for some time), no matter what motivational quotes in VK tell us =) try to look at these situations differently or not attach much importance to them, do not let them affect your condition.
People engage in self-destruction when there are mental problems (for example, an anxiety disorder) or when life is not filled with anything. Therefore, you need to visit a psychologist, or, finally, do something worthwhile. Buy a notepad on time management, start making to-do lists, many people are inactive because of lack of organization. After a while, life will start to boil, you will have no time to pick yourself up, and the daily feeling of success will only increase your self-esteem)
Those who get lost in the desert do not bury themselves in the sand, but choose a direction and follow it, looking for a way out. To the last drop of water in the canteen. Until my last breath. You shouldn't have time to destroy yourself. And all the more power to do it. Look for a way out.