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I believe that a person should not be judged for anything at all, because the problem lies much deeper than people's social relations, it is the human psyche that motivates certain actions. You can punish a person and isolate them if they pose a danger, but I think that condemnation should take place only for educational purposes, otherwise it simply has no value.
What do they condemn you for?
For everything that is good or bad in a person, and of course, for what our imagination has completed. You do not need to be a psychologist to understand that our opinion is not static and we can think good and bad about a person at one moment, we can think bad because of some trifle, or we can exalt because of some vices. Someone's abstract opinion can never be a sign of objectivity
And I think that they are condemned for such reasons.
The first is because they gossip and watch TV shows all day long. People have nothing better to do. They do not have an active, stormy life. This may be due to their age, or because they made the choice to be lazy all day and not do anything other than basic survival functions. As a result, no interesting events occur, and other people's lives become very interesting. I want to ” see “what, how” there she has”. My point is that a very busy person doesn't have time to judge or take a violent interest in the life of another person if this interest is not within the normal range (respect for relatives, keeping in touch with friends).
Second, I can tell you for sure, happy people will neither pour negative emotions on anyone,nor judge them. Why would they do that? They are happy.
Third, it comes with age, when you have hardened habits over the years, vast experience in all spheres of life, and the only correct opinion about everything in the world. And you know for sure that it's not right to open a jar like this and it's a sin to wear such a dress for a wedding.
Fourth, there is a colloquial-jargon type of cultural development of speech, which includes not only how a person speaks, but also what he says. So one of the components of the signs is “categorical in any assessment”. This does not mean that being sure of your own opinion is bad. This means pettiness in this concept. I've met people who use the voice of a connoisseur to confirm any gossip, even a thought-out one, and deny for themselves the option of changing their opinion through new incoming facts. Very negative communication experience, to be honest. So this type of person, of course, will condemn everyone and everything, not noticing that they themselves have not achieved much.
You can list many specific reasons for this behavior. The general meaning is:
There are people who need, for whatever reason, the presence of “bad others”. In their judgments, they feel good if they differ from others in something positive. This pushes us to search for these “bad ones” in the world around us. This happens almost automatically.
I think I'll be brief. This question is more ethical than philosophical. Ethics deals more narrowly with this issue, it deals with questions about good/evil, justice, honor and dignity, etc. It seems to me that your question is more related to the question of good and evil, since the actions for which they are condemned are directly compared. Because of the centuries-old practice, moral and ethical considerations have become ossified and society follows these moral values, which are a kind of code of life. It is not you who are being judged, but it is your actions that are being judged. If your action does not correspond to the everyday life and established values of people (Be it mom, dad, boss, friend), then it will be judged. Judge because you don't do what you “should” in terms of the values of other people and society. If we do not condemn other people's immoral actions, then crimes will appear in various forms, society will begin to collapse, and as a result, we will not be able to live together. The other side of your coin is “who can't be blamed?” I think this question is generally inappropriate, because condemnation is a hidden form of comparison with your actions, and in this world everything is known in comparison. It is possible and even necessary to judge, but only in your thoughts, holding back the bad in yourself and generating the good through analysis. Morality is some rules that guide us in our lives, there is a public morality, and there is a personal one. They always struggle with each other, like the struggle of opposites in dialectics.�
I hope I did something to help.
For many years, I sincerely believed that judging people is bad, and even somehow tried to fight this reaction. But now I've changed my mind.
Judging is almost a reflex. You can fight it, of course, but this leads either to self-deception in the style of “this is not a judgment, this is completely different”, or, if a person is honest with himself, to judging himself for allowing himself to judge someone.
Judgment is a person's reaction to the violation of a moral constraint, and the more important this constraint is to them, the stronger the judgment will be.
Thus, in order to really stop judging (and other people or yourself), a person will have to somehow cancel these moral restrictions.
That is, to become an immoral person.
In fact, this does not mean becoming a monster, since morality can be replaced by ethics and morality, but… but the path is very slippery, and I would venture to assume that in most cases it will not benefit a person.
The answer to the second part of the question also follows from this: you can judge people for what you consider morally unacceptable. Murder, torture, genocide against kittens, or anything else that you think is really important.
There is nothing wrong with such a judgment.
But if you condemn for any small thing-then this is a problem. But the problem is not in judgment, but in the fact that a person's moral rules are too rigid, he is too squeezed by them, and this tightness will harm him.
I'm not campaigning for “moral flexibility” at all, but excessively rigid morals are not useful either. Imho, this is one of those questions where a golden mean is desirable, which is not easy to find.
People judge other people for several reasons( in my opinion )
1) complexes, and very often condemn, what we are not capable of or what we feel lacking in ourselves and thus try to hide it, because humiliating others, we seem to become higher, which is certainly not so, in general, classical psychology.
2) envy, and rather here again the root of envy is complexes, that we are not able to achieve something, because it is not for nothing that they say that if you are discussed, then you are envied. Here, of course, you can attribute both condemnation and everything in a row under the category of envy.
3) human stupidity, there is such a phrase, Tolstoy like, smart people discuss ideas, average-events, stupid-people. And again, they discuss yes, but you can look more broadly.
As for me, these are the main reasons, and in general, if you still read Freud, then everything comes from childhood, and other reasons.