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  1. And there are different types of motivation. There is a motivation to start a conditional project. There is even an expression like this: “motivating kick”. It can come from outside or from within (motives, for example: interesting, promises some benefits, getting rid of problems, etc.) and help you start something.

    And there is a motivation to deploy, maintain and complete the process. And here it is more difficult – you can't do it with one kick, there must be something that will move a person on the way. If there is an internal motive, then the movement continues. But it often happens that the inner motive disappears (or it did not exist). Then comes the despondency – you need to do something, the person has taken on obligations – but you don't want to act. And it is difficult to organize motivation stimulation from the outside, and in some cases it is impossible.

    Why does internal motivation disappear? Most often – the novelty / interest disappears; it turns out that the benefits are not so serious, but the labor costs are large; illness (including depression); character traits that simply make a person not a “long – distance runner”, but did not take this into account.

  2. Motivations and motivation are different things. Motivation is based on a person's value system (his personal compass that drives). If this compass is broken, there are no divisions and landmarks in it, then motivation will not be retained

  3. The first thing I would like to say on this topic is that most likely this does not happen for every one of your initiatives. That is, there are topics in which there is a strong motivation, which eventually passes.

    And there are topics in which motivation does not pass even with time.

    And when dealing with your question, it is important to highlight those topics in which motivation falls and discouragement comes. Perhaps this will be a limited range of topics.

    Next, it is important to know that motivation for action is related to our needs. If the need is met, then the motivation along with satisfaction can go away.

    There is another reason why motivation can disappear — this is fear. And there are already a lot of different variations on the theme of fear:

    * fear of shame;

    * fear that nothing will work out;

    * fear of negative evaluation;

    * fear of rejection (if the result is not 100% perfect).

    When we do something new, fear and the expectation of shame, the expectation of rejection from other people accompany our process. We have a rich experience of our parents ' family, school, and work situations where we were harshly criticized, ridiculed, and even humiliated. And this experience from the past makes it difficult to be qualitatively in the present.

    If this happens to you, it means that you need support from other people. Look for a society, an environment that supports you, values your strengths, your skills, and your ideas.

    I also recommend reading articles about procrastination, perhaps it will also respond.

    If you are completely confused and do not know what to do, ask for help from a psychologist or gestalt therapist. Perhaps one or two consultations will be enough to get yourself out of this state of despondency. Good luck to you!

  4. In simple terms, the answer is that when the first steps are fun or don't destroy hope, you continue to stay motivated and take the next step.

    (An analogy of this is formulated in the aphorism: “Appetite comes with eating”)

    And if these steps and efforts of yours have brought nothing but fatigue, negativity or suffering, then your hope, which is the basis of any motivation, begins to die.

    As Zhvanetsky wrote on this topic:

    “Are you experiencing a recession? Well, the whole life is like this: rise-fall-rise-fall-rise-fall-rise and end!”

  5. It takes a lot of effort to pretend.�

    Pretending to yourself and being completely conscious is like pretending to yourself that you are full when you are hungry or that you are not hurt when you are hurt. This is an extremely mentally demanding process.

    Simultaneously, all these processes: self-persuasion, an attempt to block out feelings (for example, that you are bored and hard)… and other contradictions require strong tension, concentration, and control, after which the person is usually exhausted, despondent, and empty. � �

    The process of achieving the goal should be interesting to you, not easy, but interesting, desirable, and exciting. This is the only way to achieve the goal most likely.

  6. Every action creates a counteraction, and when you meet this counteraction, you retreat.. Either the motivation was superficial, at the level of emotional uplift, and when emotions subside, nothing else remains.�

  7. I think that this state depends on the inner qualities of a person, that is, people are divided into two categories: some do everything with interest, even monotonous work and work, while others “light up” only from novelty, and jump from case to case, looking outside for what should be inside and what is not…Perhaps the secret is that it is not motivation that guides a person's activity, but the desire to do any thing well and efficiently, then there is satisfaction from each case.

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