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  1. As usual, I will answer briefly

    To learn how to make arguments, you need to have them. Therefore, arguments should be prepared in advance. In general, I would advise you to prepare in advance for any important conversation, playing all possible arguments and questions of your opponent

    As far as convincing people is concerned, it's not what you say that matters anymore, but how you behave. People will be convinced by your voice, pitch, tone of conversation, and inner attitude

  2. If you're in Moscow, it's easier for you: to see Nikita Nepryakhin,�

    facebook.comvk.comHe positions himself in this niche – in this particular one, he does everything very professionally, and he is really very much in the subject.

    He published a book about a year ago, “Argue for It”, and regularly conducts some academic debates in Moscow, in addition to training sessions – perhaps I will somehow find the time/opportunity to fit in with my trips, while there are a lot of other studies.

    For dear moderators: here I do not advertise a colleague, this is a direct answer to the question.

    Well, all the literature on rhetoric, from Schopenhauer's “Eristics” to Dilts '”Tricks of Language”, etc., etc.

  3. The recipe is very simple-believe in what you say.

    Believe for real and build your arguments starting from the weak to the strong. Actually, convincing is completely useless. Almost all of us have our own position. And very often, people don't agree with someone because they agree. You've convinced them. It's just because they don't want you to convince them. They won't change their minds. But not necessarily.

  4. More often in your head, remember the song from the musical “Chicago” – “Chic shine”.�


    First, you need to assess the situation. Our goal is to convince people that we are right. Here you can roughly consider 2 options.

    Option 1: You argue with the person one – on-one. In this case, just give the facts. If you're really right, that's enough for you. Just get started with facts, reinforced concrete ones. But the belief is already different: if you do not have the facts-turn on the sophistry and LIE! But be smart: feel out the areas in which the interlocutor is not well versed and press “allegedly” with facts from this area. Focus on your opponent's arguments and interests, and use their authority to justify your position. If, for example, your opponent refers to psychology to convince you that “It's stupid to be afraid of death,” let them know that Freud and Jung actually came to the conclusion that it's right and even useful to be afraid of death. You need to win here and now, so if he decides to dig in and double-check, everything you've given him will be too late.

    Option 2: You argue with the person in front of other people. For example, in a student group or in an established team. In this situation, it is important not so much to convince the opponent as the audience. If you have to argue with the whole audience-find a leader in it, pay attention to him and argue with everyone in his person. Here everything is just as obvious – if you have concrete facts , you can present them and there will be nothing to argue about. The main thing is not to be provoked. But if there are no facts, and you want to convince them, then PROVOKE them to make mistakes. You have an opponent or you have selected one for yourself. Now it is more important for you not to be believed, but not to be believed by him. Provoke him to make mistakes, notice his nervousness, grab unconfirmed facts, make him get personal and emphasize this in front of everyone, get him out of himself, while remaining calmly calm – this is the persuasiveness: if your opponent is tearing his hair out on his ass, and you calmly say: “Well, what are you doing on your ass-you are already tearing your hair out, you will freeze in winter”, you will benefit from this. Present yourself as people imagine a confident person, and make your opponent a clown and a laughing stock, then you won't have to prove anything, you'll see.

  5. To begin with, you need to be an erudite person in order to have a basis for argumentation. The rest will come by itself. After reading hundreds of books, textbooks and scientific papers, you will gain a vocabulary and many examples of palemics, which are often used in publicistic and scientific and philosophical works.

  6. If you have an argument, and the interlocutor is not a fool, but a completely adequate person, then just present your argument! Elementary! The main thing is that you yourself should be adequate and with logic on a friendly foot (and then, maybe, this is not an argument at all).

    It is much more difficult with people who are emotional, quick-tempered, and even more so-narrow-minded. Here you can't get away with just one argument. Psychological techniques come to the rescue. For example, a calm tone of voice in a conversation with a noisy person, a slight cynicism – with an emotional one, intrigue, veiling-with a slow interlocutor.

    And most importantly, the argument must be presented in such a way that the opponent likes it.

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