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  1. Try measuring trust by degree. Don't divide by yes and no. And divide by percentages. This person I trust 80%, this one — 50%, and this one-more than 3% can not be given. And give yourself in this system not 100% , but 90%. Because the world is constantly in motion. All people change, and so do you. Things that seemed permanent for a long time will eventually change into some other form. In such circumstances, it is useless to expect that other people will always agree with one thing that you offer them.

    It is useful to remember that all people are free, and no one owes anyone anything, as long as there is no clear agreement. Therefore, if a person has abused your faith in him, then you are also to blame. Because they did not adequately assess your relationship and did not formalize the contract “on the shore”, before going together in the same boat.

    Each person has a personal space, which he leaves only to himself. Imagine that you are the founder of a company. Probably, you will trust employees who have just got a job with less important tasks and information. And for experienced and proven employees — more important. If an employee starts making mistakes frequently, you will lower them in this hierarchy. And if your business is based on a secret formula, a recipe for a product, then you will try to keep it a secret from everyone, even from close friends. You don't even know if other people want to be the keepers of your personal secrets, because this may have undesirable consequences for them. You can also treat trust in relationships in the same way. Divide people into three groups: relatives, friends, and strangers. Over time, both you and people will change, consciousness will change, so people will move from circle to circle, and this is a normal process.

    Wearing different masks is a natural, evolutionarily determined human behavior. We all change a lot of masks in a day, depending on the conditions in which we find ourselves. Sometimes this happens unconsciously in the process of adjusting to other people, just to better understand each other. A mask is not always a deception, but sometimes it is a way to protect yourself from external conditions. Therefore, you should try to clearly distinguish when a person is lying deliberately to harm you, and when he simply misjudges the situation, incorrectly reconstructed your understanding of the world in his mind, and because of this, your positions diverged. In the second case, the problem can be successfully solved if you honestly tell each other your understanding of the situation and try to find some common areas of perception of the world.

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