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  1. Manipulation in communication assumes that you “achieve your goals at the expense of another person and “hide”them. For example, you “compliment a colleague:” You're “so beautiful and” smart! “and then ask: “Go get”coffee, please!”. The compliment in”this example is not”a way to express admiration, but”a means to get coffee. How long do you think people believe someone who manipulates them?

    In the long run, manipulation destroys relationships and your reputation. Another of the “consequences of manipulation” is the loss of trust. It is possible to exert influence and “at the same time be open in” intentions. Below is a list of books that help you recognize manipulation. And also communicate with other people, convince them,negotiate and resolve conflicts.

    “The psychology of influence” Persuade, influence, defend, Robert Chaldin, 2001-tells how people perceive information, thanks to which others influence”us and” our decisions, what psychological phenomena underlie compliance.

    “Nonviolent communication. The language of Life”, Marshal Rosenberg-about “how to negotiate with” other people, act in “conflicts, find a common language with” a variety of interlocutors.

    “A brilliant presentation.” How to Win an audience by Jerry Weissman-the book tells you how to prepare for a public appearance, hold the audience's attention, and show the advantages of your offer.

    Depending on what task you have before you-build relationships, get interested in your idea. Or to understand why you are so easily influenced by other people, you can choose one of the books. If you want to get practical benefits out of reading, try reading in small parts. And”apply the acquired knowledge in” life.

  2. First, read the biography of Hitler to understand what leads to the desire of one person to manipulate another. When the fetid smell of Nazi Germany hits your head, read the wonderful Abraham Maslow on human self-actualization, which will help you understand a lot about yourself.

  3. Do you want to push people around like puppets, be able to whip them with impunity, humiliate them, cheat them out of their money, but at the same time receive constant praise from them and enrich yourself with such manipulation? The best literature on this topic is “The Golden Key, or the Adventures of Pinocchio.”



    Starting from a baby who cries when he wants to eat, ending with a politician who makes campaign promises. This is an essential human trait.�

    Manipulation technologies can be found in the books of psychologist Nikolai Kozlov. Eg :

    “17 moments of success: a leadership strategy”.

  5. I have been a member of a team of psychologists and specialists in related fields for two years now – we have experienced a split, betrayal, and a lot of minor troubles. So, believe the bitter experience:

    the basis of communication is sincerity. Manipulation destroys it, making long-term relationships impossible. This is like an axiom that can be proved (by spoiling relationships with people), but it's better to just take it on faith.

    For educational purposes, I recommend Zimbardo's “social Psychology “and Childini's” Psychology of Influence”.

    Knowledge of offensive tactics will help in defense.

  6. Robert Green's “50 Laws of Power” is a very interesting book written and filled with historical examples for each of the described rules (both positive examples of compliance with the “laws” and reverse ones that led to the failures of the characters). The book is useful both for those who want to manipulate, and for people who want to protect themselves from unwanted external influence.

  7. Well, if you are interested in NLP, then I can recommend Bern “Games that people play”, the author also has interesting essays on intimate topics. You can read Carnegie, there is almost everything on this topic.

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