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Good question. I don't really trust an answer like “your wish will be fulfilled as if Jin were doing it – literally, so you'll regret wanting something”-it's superficial. And it doesn't always happen that way, it's obvious.
I think it's something else. In psychoanalysis, there is an idea that a person is largely determined by his ability to accept success. What it means: any success is also a test, and it still needs to be experienced.
Because often problems begin with vertigo from success – a person begins to think that he is not worthy of such happiness and the mechanism of guilt that destroys the personality is activated.
In this sense, “be afraid of the desires” – a warning to everyone, because at some point, your desires can be fulfilled, even better than you could imagine, but it will be so hard to afford all this happiness – because secretly you can consider yourself unworthy of such a success, especially if all the best to happen at the same time that you unconsciously turn on the feeling of guilt that will destroy you for your happiness.
This is what really happens to people if they are not ready for their wishes to be fulfilled.
The phrase “Fear your desires, for they tend to come true” is attributed to Confucius or his disciples. It can be understood as follows: a person does not always understand the causes and consequences of their desires. Therefore, he cannot absolutely say whether the realization of his desire will bring benefit or harm. Changes are accompanied by new issues. One problem is solved, and another arises in this place. Therefore, it is useful to try to soberly assess the consequences of your actions and avoid fanaticism in achieving your goals, so as not to harm yourself and others.
This means something like this-your desires are not thought out and can lead to something completely opposite. We've all read fairy tales about evil genies who fulfill your wishes literally and actually mock you.�
For example:
I want to become a millionaire-bam, and in the country again the 90s, and all millionaires.
I want to live forever – but live without problems, and now you live to 115, a half-blind remnant of yourself with urinary incontinence, and you realize that it would be better to die.
I want a beautiful wife-yes, get it, you're welcome, model the situation yourself
I want absolute knowledge-OK, take it. And you become a soulless grotesque Manhattan Doctor. And I lost myself and everything that I cherished became not interesting.
But the essence is deeper than simple casuistry and selection of situations
Because then you try to find the perfect phrase, but it turns out that in this world there is no “click and everything will be great”button. And to wish everyone well is to pour a drop into the sea without immediate effect. And then thinking goes to a new level-closer to what Buddhism says – you can save yourself or try to save the whole world. And then you reach the final understanding – you have a life, and there is your time that will end, and therefore live it, and try to be happy, at least in small things. Enjoy the orange juice in the morning, the morning jog, the affectionate look of your wife and the laughter of your child. And this is the essence of happiness. In finiteness, fragility, subjectivity and in the fact that despite all of the above, it is-this is happiness, there is.
The question is certainly interesting. However, it is necessary to consider it not in the framework of one person, but in the framework of all people. After all, the whole phrase sounds, in my opinion, so-Beware of your wishes, they can be fulfilled. And there is a similar statement not only in “The Master and Margarita”, but also in a short story by one of the science fiction writers. Moreover, the story more accurately reflects what can happen. The meaning of the story is as follows: a seemingly ordinary and unremarkable person walked around the world. And where he appeared, ALL the people around him began to FULFILL their WISHES. The only restriction was imposed on this person – he had the right to stay in one place for no more than 24 hours. And somehow it happened that they were able to detain this person in one place for more than 24 hours. As a result, the person left the ABSOLUTELY DEAD DESERT.
And the point is that EVERYONE has DESIRES, and these DESIRES can and will be at WAR with the DESIRES of OTHERS. AND as A RESULT, the fulfillment of ONE person's wish CAME into CONFLICT with the OTHER person's wish. AND THERE were MANY such PEOPLE-DESIRES. Which eventually led to the complete destruction of EVERYTHING.
Something like that.
There is such an old movie “Wish Fulfillment”. It clearly shows why you need to be careful with your wishes.
Well, or so:
– someone dreamed of working without leaving home;
– someone dreamed that his mother – in-law could not come to him;
– someone dreamed that there were fewer cars on the roads.
And many people dreamed of something.
And now the coronavirus has struck, and the dreams of many have come true.
But the way they are implemented is another topic.
To get something, you need to be prepared to lose something.
Therefore, they recommend that you be afraid of your dreams.
Yes, because desires materialize, not instantly, not immediately, but after a while, and you will already forget about it when it can be realized, and in a very peculiar way. Something like this: there is a desire to rest and not work – you can get sick and lie down, you wanted something and got it. So you have to be very careful about what you wish for. In addition, the universe (God) who fulfills our desires does not have the word NOT. That is, if you want – I DON't want to be poor, you know, what you will get.
This is in short, because you can write a book on this topic, and there are many examples of your own confirming the mass and clients of the story. There's not enough space on the channel.
The phrase expresses an unconscious sense of potential harm that conceals our sincere desire.
Most people have an innate fear of their own desires, which they realize in culture: sayings, beliefs, signs, values.
This neurotic complex is formed due to upbringing with the attitude: what you want is bad, shameful, dirty, wrong. That is, the idea is driven in, instilled that wanting something will always lead to punishment, retribution.
What does the child's mind do? It's very simple: I will not want what I want, but what I can. A rational conclusion, but not effective, as it leads to prolonged dissatisfaction, and then to depression in adulthood, if a person does not learn to find “workarounds”, or work out self-acceptance.