What to do if you are so used to living with anxiety that when you are in a rare good mood, your subconscious mind tries to deliberately remind you of the bad?

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  1. It is quite a task of the subconscious mind, given that it consists of different parts and the task of one part is to frighten a person. I call her an inner abuser, who metaphorically represents all the repressed aggression of a person, all the aggression from parents and the environment in general. And sometimes this part just gets bigger and starts to “stick out”. Just, in the statistical norm, a person situationally feels scared or ashamed, so this is considered the norm, and only such a chronic obvious manifestation is considered neurotic. But the essence is the same — we are taught to be afraid, we are taught that fear is the norm, that suppression of aggression (desires, expression of will, emotions, sexuality) is the norm, which leads to tension, manic behavior, anxiety, and so on. What we are taught is formed into a separate conglomerate, a kind of neural network aimed at our qualitative and systematic regulation, for example, through intimidation (but not only).�

    Having such a large amount of anxiety indicates an excessive suppression of aggression, which includes everything from emotions to sexuality. I can throw off the instructions-a reminder to the client, which I wrote recently, can ease the anxiety, but this is only the first step. From the general advice-allow yourself to get angry in places where you do not allow it to do, and do not get angry where you are chronically exploding. But all this really needs to be done with a therapist, so I wish you good luck in therapy. I hope it doesn't take years, as they like.�

    Reminder message:

    1. Describe situations in which you feel stressed, afraid, guilty, ashamed, uncomfortable, or stressed. (don't even consider anxiety, because it's just an echo, a physical symptom, an unavoidable consequence.)
    2. As you experience these feelings in these situations, try to discover the aggression that affects you, making you feel it. It's like someone angry or frustrated is yelling at you.
    3. After most of the situations that cause fear, guilt, and shame are discovered and relived, and aggression is found, try to formulate or imagine the source of this aggression. Try to separate it into a separate object that hates you. Try to hear what he says to you in all these situations, what ideas he conveys.
    4. Don't be afraid of this judgment. Try to physically relax and let this voice pass through you, no matter what discomfort and pain it brings. Do not run away and make sure that your muscles are relaxed.�

    Chronic anxiety at this stage can already let go, because it is most often associated with an unwillingness to listen to this inner judging voice or simply feel inner condemnation for some personal reason. Anxiety is not even a feeling, in fact. This is closer to a physical symptom of repressed unpleasant feelings. Good luck!

  2. The” subconscious ” (also known as the unconscious) does not try to “remind” anything – it has other functions )

    It's just that a neurotic living in a state of permanent anxiety has a need for this anxiety. This may be a consequence of a behavioral model, or not quite adequate ideas about reality, or it may also be psychiatric reasons.�

    Judging by your wording (“I used to live with anxiety”), your specific reason may be in the first one – in the usual behavioral model. In this case, it is your unconscious that performs its direct function, “blurting out” the cause of your anxiety ) And behavioral models are corrected with a psychologist, by means of systemic behavioral therapy.

  3. This is a pre-acquired state, not a norm. It's just that you've already gotten so used to it that you probably don't remember how different it was.

    But, this is present in many people, and there can be a lot of reasons for tumu..

    In order to get rid of this feeling, you need to work with a psychologist…

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