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  1. It's practical. Much more practical than hoarding a grudge.

    Sister Vicki suggests that forgiveness is a release from punishment.

    If you had the opportunity to punish the abuser, you would have already done so. If you are cheated for money, you sue and put the fraudster behind bars.

    But if you can't punish the abuser, then you have no leverage, you can't restore justice. You knock on a closed door and no one is going to answer it.

    Well, actually, at some point it is necessary to admit that yes, I was treated unfairly, I was harmed, and I can't punish the offender, there is simply no such opportunity. Terribly bitter, insulting, unfair – but this is the reality.

    So to forgive is simply to write off this injustice at a loss and get away from the abuser. Instead of nurturing your resentment, keep knocking on closed doors and shaking the hatchet – because there's nothing you can do, and being offended means wasting your energy.

  2. If you are interested in emotional freedom and self-sufficiency, forgiveness is a must.

    You can't be a self-sufficient person if you continue to hold grudges against someone. Forgiveness is something that allows you not to form against the background of some traumatic episode that has arisen in the process of interacting with the abuser, certain behaviors that will somehow limit you in the future.

    Simply put, there is freedom in forgiveness.

  3. First of all, for yourself. You release the load from your soul. It eats resentment from the inside out and wastes your energy, which could have been directed to something more pleasant. I recommend reading Radical Forgiveness.

  4. There is no need to forgive anyone. The answer should always be adequate. Every action in our universe has a counteraction. You must respond to a blow with a blow, to an insult with an insult. This will make your abuser think hard before touching you in the future. Forgiveness is often a very bad line of behavior, as it is very convenient to use someone's ability to forgive while avoiding a fair response.

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